Conversation faux pas

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I get tired of being blamed for running conversational flow, even on-line! Anyone had this problem and how did you work on it?

Conversations have flow?

I tend to sort of "Lay in wait" until a key strategic time presents itself to "inject" a comment into the conversation.

I have a very hard time finding out where the breaks are.

I think they mean how conversations develop I am not even sure what they mean to be honest

Problem is I never know when it's the right time. Pauses Lon ones are bad short ones are bad! Talking is such a pain in the butt.

What is running conversational flow?

Ruining. My phone likes to correct me but in a bad way.

Ah, now it makes sense .

I find conversations don't have a flow at all when I'm in them. I'm either droning on and boring people (apparently) or I'm butting in when it's not my turn or I'm talking over people. It's so awkward, it would be easier to talk to myself!

I agree! I would rather talk to myself.

All conversations with NT's tend to flow into the divide and conquer and divide and conquer and ... ad nauseum territory. In the end no battle plan survives the first contact with reality, so improvise and improvise and... ad nauseum.

I talk to myself all the time.

I also answer myself, get into arguments, then lose... Yeah, all the jokes, for real.

I interrupt people a lot in conversation, especially when I'm excited about something. I try to interject in a pause but the other person keeps talking.

I didn't think I monologued until a few days ago when I caught myself doing exactly that in a conversation. I got to a point eventually, but it was a bit of a stream-of-consciousness rant.

Phones are an issue, too. I cut people off all the time or start talking right when someone else talks. And then there are the awkward pauses...

What's amusing too is when my mom and I manage to have to concurrent conversations because we're both so deep in our own thoughts that we don't quite register what the other is saying.

I experience the same. People never bother to say I'm ruining anything, but from their reactions I can tell I'm ruining the conversation (I'm actually reading their body language and facial expressions, I guess). When I start saying something, people kind of freeze. Awkward silence follows my comments in a group conversation. The whole air becomes rather awkward and tense and people seem to suddenly become conscious of that air when I start talking. I don't know whether it's what I say or how I say it that's causing it.

Thanks for the responses guys!

I tend to stay fairly quite when in groups.

It is hard for me to figure out when it is ok for me to speak in groups. I often end up interrupting because after a pause either the same person continues talking or another person starts talking. Or I say something about a subject that everyone else is finished with. One on one conversations are easier.