"Shutting down" when nervous/anxious/etc

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My curiosity has gotten the best of me. I have noticed that when I feel nervous or anxious I start to lose functionality. When talking to one person, I can be fine if I know them. However, if someone enters the conversation that I don't know, I become quiet and rock the chair if I am physically able to move it, keeping my arms folded so I don't touch anyone. Answers are simple and make me sound like an idiot sometimes. Even things I can recite fluently are gone, like my memory was locked away until I get away from the crowd.

Does anyone else here have a similar or same thing happen to them?

Probably mine is not really a "shutdown", but I can very easily get nervous around people and I start shaking. If I try to speak in that state, my voice will be very shaky as if I were being emotional and about to cry or something. I surely can't say what I want to say in that state. It's rather embarrassing to let others see me like that. So in whatever situation, if I have to discuss something with others, such as in a meeting, I always end up not being able to argue my points. So, I always lose. I can never get my message across because of that. People don't take me seriously. It's very frustrating. I've been like this all my life.

I have a team of 7 people to manage which i find not to difficult. My issue is that if someone from outside of my team does something wrong i act accordingly and have a word with them in the office. The issue is that if i become angry or even worried about the chat i start to feel faint and have to quickly sit down. I have to take some deep breaths. Now i always sit down before i start. It looks lazy on my part but if not i might just find myself on the floor.

I lose all ability to function when that happens. I'll sit in a corner, quiet and not processing anything. It doesn't help when I'm in the middle of something important.