Does this ever happen to you? Conversation switch to someone

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Triple__B
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27 Feb 2013, 1:47 pm

Quite often it seems that someone at work will start talking to me about something and the conversation seems to get awkward as it usually does somehow. But as I notice their usual uncomfortable look on their face, they almost instinctively turn to someone else in the room to finish the conversation with. The other person is normally not even involved in the conversation to start with.

This happens all the time to me even though sometimes it's before I could even make my first response in the conversation, so what awkward thing could I have possibly done before even speaking?


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27 Feb 2013, 4:33 pm

It could be your body language, tone of voice, or the things you are saying.

A good idea is to ask a trusted friend, family member, or colleague about the things about you that would make someone lose interest or shift their attention. It's a good thing to know what these are so that you can be aware of these things and perhaps work on them.


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28 Feb 2013, 12:37 am

anneurysm wrote:
It could be your body language, tone of voice, or the things you are saying.

A good idea is to ask a trusted friend, family member, or colleague about the things about you that would make someone lose interest or shift their attention. It's a good thing to know what these are so that you can be aware of these things and perhaps work on them.


Thanks, I will try that out.


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28 Feb 2013, 1:42 am

Happens to me too sometimes. I think what happens in my situation, people can tell that I'm nervous or off, and then they catch my nervousness and because they don't want to feel nervous anymore they turn to someone else to finish off. Or if noone else is around they quickly close the conversation and run away