Son pdd -Father possibly what do you think?

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My son was diagnosed last april with pdd-nos at age 4.......I have questions about his father and if he possibly is on the spectrum........my hb has had drug and alcohol addictons in the past, growing up. ....he says he loves his family but finds it hard to deal with the children and me and sayes he is not cut out for family life and talks about leaving sometime. he sometimes lashes out at the littlest of mishaps or problems, picks on the kids sometime. He is the glass half empty guy always seeing the bad or thinking the worst about situations most the time overthinking the issues.....he is anti social just getting him to go to the grocery store is difficult and if he does go he can only stand it for about 1/2 hr before he gets impatient, moody, angry and wants to leave..... the only place he is not like that is in the mountains , fishing, camping ect ect where there is a lack of people around. If we do go anywhere with lots of people he is instantly anxious......he seems oblivious to other peoples feeling most the time, i am not saying he lacks compassion he has a huge heart and will help anyone which is almost a bad thing cause he will put other repeatedly needy people before his family......he is a wize at math can do almost any calculations in his head but hates reading and has no patients for it, and will have me read it to him. he started roofing about 7 yrs ago and has done it ever since is very good at it but is almost obsessed.... talk about it constantly , when we go driving into town he is pointing out every roof he ever did, he will work any day all day if he could, during the winter when work stops is very hard for him to deal with, he paces the house,and gets even worse with his shortness in tolerance for things..... he is anti social but when he does find someone and considers a friend he almost has to, i would say like impress them , talk himself up, He has this, he has that sort of thing, almost needing approval from them, which is not always a good thing depending on the person he is trying to impress cause he mimics there attitudes and personalities.. and if he losses a friend or feels like they don't want to be friend anymore he takes it hard usually saying he doesn't care but you can clearly see it affects him......he will eat anything i make but hates most everything..... and there are other littler issues i see all the time......before my son got diagnosed i attributed his behavior to past drug issues and familly issues growing up.... so does he.....But now i think he may be on the as spectrum now that i know a little more about it? do you think i might be right and if so what should we do? how hard is it to get a diagnosis in a adult? is it worth doing? genetic testing? what will be done about it? like the anxiety, will he be put on medications to help? or other medications? do adults that realize they have this later in life does it help to have answers. any advise or personal stories of similar situations would be helpfull

Some fam history: his first cousin is low function autistic, non verbal, another 1st cousin that they know is adhd and has mental issues has spent time in/out of facilities, his brothers first son has issues i now recognize them to be the same as my sons but undiagnosed. his second child w/ different mother is 1 1/2-2 yrs and the mother is saying she is not developing and hitting milestones, his other brother has a daughter (1st child) is 3 and still does not talk clearly and mumbles and points, is barley potty trained, i believe she too is delayed, and my husbands first 2 sons w/ first wife... we don't see very much (diffrent state /divorce issues) we had them this past summer (8 yr/10/yr) and they are compulsive liars, don't seem to be able to have real empathy/feeling tords others. have massive issues in school with fighting. but when the youngest did make friends out here he was almost addicted to him, never wanted him to leave or had to be at his house if the kid would leave he would stand out front our house yelling for him for hrs. untill i would stop it. addicted to video games had issues sharing or playing them with others...make up unbelievable stories like telling a stranger he can play Mozart and beethoven on the piano, and he has studied piano his whole life.....takes everything as a joke or takes stuff literally no inbetween....but having a almost "nasty" sense of humor, revolving around bodily issues all that kind of stuff.....i could go on and on.....they are undiagnosed and have been raised by the mother who has issues also......I suspect they are also on the autism spectrum.
I do have a daughter(12y) honor student, very active socially, involved in sports and clubs, very responsible, no issues at all except for a bit of pre-teen attitude now and then.....LOL.. my sisters son is only 6 months.....to young to tell....

From the sounds of it your husband needs to get assessed for an ASC, if he goes for a baseline mental health assessment first, they should pick up whether he has behaviours which would indicate referral for ASC assessment.