We are "entitled", have a negative attitude?

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Have you been judged like this? Maybe when seeking disability benefits?

WTH, right?

Some people are born with the right genes, brains, personalities - they are just naturally relaxed, happy, extroverted, and... successful.

Others of us are born with the opposite, and get the opposite result - NOT successful.

"Attitude" didn't come first - it didn't create all of the above - how could it??? Attitude comes after. If you're LUCKY enough to be born into the first group of people, then OF COURSE you're gonna have a positive attitude - why wouldn't you?

This is all LUCK, isn't it? Or the lack thereof?

And "entitled"???? I don't even know where to begin! (Someone help me out here??)

I'm so bewildered and angry... can anyone else relate to anything in this post? Please chime in - I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thank you.

I wish I could get disability benefits.

Yeah, it's total BS. Attitude is a by-product of your circumstance and the genetic card hand that you're dealt.

Of course, if you try to argue that with your average NT, you'll probably just get accused of "over-analyzing" things.

Perhaps the "entitled" perception comes from stereotypes that (young) people with Aspergers come from middle-to-upper class families (which is demographically true) and that they've been pampered to the point of being rude or not reciprocating certain unspoken gestures and what not. Fact is, they don't recognize or can't define these things, so they can't adequately respond to them (as you and I know very well!!)

Maybe you should question the attitude of the social worker who is making the disability claim difficult. Surely these people are trained, in this day and age, to recognize autistic spectrum conditions and the debilitating effect it can have on employment prospects.

Unless one is a hermit living out in the middle of nowhere entirely off the land, I say people are entitled to the means to survive as well as enjoyment of life. What is the point of even having a society or community, if not to ensure it's members are taken care of and allowed some enjoyment in life if that's not more or less the purpose maybe it should be called a free for all rather than a society. Maybe that's a terrible, evil entitled view point...but I don't really care.

I've volunteered, would like to again but I sort of need that disability money to afford the bus fair before I can volunteer somewhere and obligate myself to show up...I don't have anyone to give me rides consistantly and I would not be a safe driver in traffic so the bus and walking are my only options and there aren't really places to volunteer within walking distance....even the animal shelter is pretty far and I'd have to walk next to the highway to get there unless there is some other route realistically though it's like a 5 mile walk or longer up hill.

Some people are just ignorant about the sorts of issues that can come up when you have certain mental conditions, I mean I essentially cannot drive because of anxiety, I don't typically get hired when I apply for jobs even after interveiws because the autism makes me come off a bit as a bit 'odd' like not making eye contact and stuff that is weird to people not to mention the anxiety makes me come off as pretty nervous most likely which doesn't help me come off as a 'confident, fast paced career oriented....ect' person that they want for the job. Sometimes i think it would be easier if I could simply fake it but no such luck.

I don't know if a disability worker told you that I'd say file a complaint about them, I am pretty sure they are allowed to tell you if you are unlikely to get on disability based on the conditions you have or if you need more medical records or whatever but that does not extend to judging your character and attitude to try and discourage you. Or maybe if you didn't end up applying you could attempt again and maybe get someone else to file the application or whatever...not sure if the process in your state includes talking to a social worker type person who helps fill out the application and submits it but yeah if it does and they are the one who said that I think it would be reasonable to file a complaint.

The world is a awful place and anyone in denial of that is a moron.

Just the same if you got any form of autism, your likely to live a life full of misery.

So if acknowledging that causes people to label you, they're morons.


That being said, acknowledging bad things and using them as an excuse to feel bad is completely different.

Anyways seeking out disability isn't a great thing to do. For one reason any time you use these services someone else that may need em will get denied.

And more importantly the financial structures that support these services are crumbling.

But aren't people entitled to disability benefits if they need it? Has "entitled" become an insult now?

I am entitled to have kids, I am entitled to having a job, I am entitled to entertainment and fun, I am entitled to marriage. We're all entitled to our opinions and to how we live our lives and what we buy.