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ASS-P
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02 Mar 2013, 8:51 pm

I am planning to go to my - 35th - high-school reunion .
It's in late July - it will be warmer by then , anyway , if I have to go while homeless .
This HS where I went/graduated from (technically , so to speak ) is a REALLY upper-UPPER middle-class HS , it lands on those US News And World Report " Top 100 HSs In The US " lists !Let's say it's Highland Park , Texas . My parents , briefly , were rather straining themselves to try to live in this town even when they were financially at their best off...I suppose they were , in fact , rather " doing it for me " (and my younger brother) , they moved out after I graduated...
To show you how well off this town is , they were talking about a " women's golf outing " !
I mean , quite frankly , maybe I might hope for some pity money/influence sent my way/house-sitting gigs...
People say " I don't want pity " , but , sometimes...
Maybe if I was in better health I could show up w/a nice backpack & acoustic guitar as there " bohemian " Woody Guthrie-esque classmate who took another route/ their free-livingid - woo hoo - but I can't even play such an instrument !



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02 Mar 2013, 9:05 pm

The last contact I had with my former classmates went something like this:

ME: "Hey, this is just a thought, but has any one considered having our next reunion at Six Flags?"

HE: "Fnord, we're sick of your $%^&* complaining! You haven't given one bit of help to this project, and now you demand that we all spend our hard-earned money to fly off to some *&^%$ resort and put up with #*$&% lines and crowds! Why don't you just (*%#@$%^ yourself and die!"

Considering that the Six Flags comment was the only comment I'd made during the meeting, you'll likely understand why I withdrew my previous offer of financial support and flew back to the West Coast that same evening.

I'd rather spend an entire weekend on a mountaintop with 200 non-English-speaking foreigners praying to the Christian God and fasting, than to ever again say "Hello" to any of my former classmates.



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02 Mar 2013, 9:35 pm

The last one i went to still had their cliques of people i haven't seen since high school, so i was biding my time in a dark corner, and most of the comments were why wasn't talking with everybody and why was i so quiet.



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02 Mar 2013, 9:54 pm

Sounds like you had good enough relationships with your classmates at high school to consider going to a reunion. That's pretty good.

I don't even want to think about my classmates from then. Not that I was severely bullied or anything, but still my memories are all rather negative. I have no fond memories.



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02 Mar 2013, 10:55 pm

I thought that after 30+ years, they would have become nicer.

If anything, they've become meaner.



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02 Mar 2013, 11:19 pm

For some reason most of the people I seemed to hang out with were one grade below me. The few I knew in my own class are missing or dead.



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02 Mar 2013, 11:52 pm

I don't even wanna go on Facebook because my former classmates will try to contact me on it.



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03 Mar 2013, 12:55 am

1000Knives wrote:
I don't even wanna go on Facebook because my former classmates will try to contact me on it.

lucky you, i've been on for over 5 months and no one has contacted me, yet they seem to all friend each other no matter how close they were, I suppose I know how a reunion would of for me. I'd go for the teachers though, the ones I liked and to show up the ones that hated and thought nothing of me.



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03 Mar 2013, 1:04 am

1000Knives wrote:
I don't even wanna go on Facebook because my former classmates will try to contact me on it.


When I used to be on Facebook someone who didn't like me in school sent me a friend request. I thought that was to weird so I ignored them and eventually blocked them.

I suspect they volunteered to be on the Reunion committee and that's why they "Friended" me. Oh well, I'm glad I quit that site.



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03 Mar 2013, 1:31 am

VIDEODROME wrote:
1000Knives wrote:
I don't even wanna go on Facebook because my former classmates will try to contact me on it.


When I used to be on Facebook someone who didn't like me in school sent me a friend request. I thought that was to weird so I ignored them and eventually blocked them.

I suspect they volunteered to be on the Reunion committee and that's why they "Friended" me. Oh well, I'm glad I quit that site.


I got a friend request like that! If they were planning a 20-year reunion, I never heard about it. That would have been 2010. So for some reason other than that, the chick who seemed to think I was contagious and possibly fatal sent me a friend request a week ago. I was gobsmacked. And I promptly declined and ignored. I'd like to reach the point where I forgive everyone who ever picked on me, hey, who wouldn't like to feel that evolved? But that's not the same as wanting her to have access to my comments as well as those of my family members. Thing is, I can't figure out how she found me. I keep my friends list very short (about 20), I keep my settings very private, and even so, my maiden name is not on Facebook, and neither is my photo. I have this strange aversion to associating with anyone I used to know, much less people who barely tolerated me, much MUCH less people who actually made fun of me. I've heard bullies tend to forget their bullying, but if that was the only relationship they had with a person and they forget that, exactly what do they remember?

I did get information about a ten year reunion long ago, by the way... I sent them a brief and uninformative update and told them just what I thought about seeing again the pack of people I considered responsible for the systematic destruction of my self-esteem. Yeah, just a wee bit bitter. I am working on that, making a little progress. BUT ten years was too soon. That's what happens when you spend years of life alone in a big noisy crowd.


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03 Mar 2013, 1:47 am

I may have popped up just because I put my High School in my profile. That's all I can figure.



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03 Mar 2013, 1:52 am

If I had actually made valedictorian let me tell you that my speech at graduation wouldn't have been about how much I will miss being a part of my class.



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03 Mar 2013, 4:45 am

I'm uncertain about what my high school reunion is going to look like; we got sort of a grab-bag mix of good kids, weird kids, popular kids and bullies.


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03 Mar 2013, 9:50 am

ghoti wrote:
The last one i went to still had their cliques of people i haven't seen since high school


Yes, this happened on mine too. I did spend some time wondering why some people never get over it. It was the first and the last HS reunion for me.



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03 Mar 2013, 10:52 am

When I see the words, "high school reunion",

I picture lots and lots of sticks of dynamite in my head.



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03 Mar 2013, 12:21 pm

irishwhistle wrote:
I sent them a brief and uninformative update and told them just what I thought about seeing again the pack of people I considered responsible for the systematic destruction of my self-esteem. Yeah, just a wee bit bitter. I am working on that, making a little progress. BUT ten years was too soon. That's what happens when you spend years of life alone in a big noisy crowd.


I don't think any amount of time will help me forget or ever want to see them again.