understanding that people have different interests

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i find it difficult to understand why people don't like the things i do. i find it frustrating, i know to some extent that people have different tastes but how can anyone hate the rocky horror picture show among other things likse muse and harry potter.

does anyone else find it annoying when people do not share the enthusiasm you do about something

It doesn't really annoy me but it certainly bores me. Probably the only thing I discriminate about in my friendships is actually interests. If someone isn't into games or computers or books or science or something along those lines then I'll just not have any interest in talking to them. I only ever really talk about my interests; I don't gossip as I find it to be both disingenuous and petty, I don't really talk about my feelings that much since I'm not very good at it and I can't be bothered to get involved in talking about their interests if I know nothing about their interests.

[quote="Urist"]It doesn't really annoy me but it certainly bores me. Probably the only thing I discriminate about in my friendships is actually interests. If someone isn't into games or computers or books or science or something along those lines then I'll just not have any interest in talking to them. I only ever really talk about my interests; I don't gossip as I find it to be both disingenuous and petty, I don't really talk about my feelings that much since I'm not very good at it and I can't be bothered to get involved in talking about their interests if I know nothing about their interests.[/quote

yeah it is boring, i feel that when im really interested in something that i think is brilliant people are missing out and when they dont see what i find interesting it makes no sense, i really want people to see what i see about things i love.

Not really. Whatever floats your boat, right? I'm not extremely interested in the things they like, so why should I have an expectation of them to like what I like?

My biggest issue with this, which I am getting better and better at, is recognizing when it's going to be boring for, or annoying to, someone when I talk about a special interest. I'm getting better and better at limiting the amount I talk about any si's w/ people who don't share them. Makes for smoother social interactions vs. people awkwardly listening and trying not to be rude and tell me they don't care, or try to find a way out of the conversation etc. Those things are getting rarer and rarer for me.

One of the best learning times is talking with another aspie who couldn't possibly care less about an si of mine, then they'll be more likely to be honest and indicate they're not interested - because if they just can't get into the conversation, they simply won't. Helps me remember more and more and more to keep things on track with topics that are a little more relevant to the present situation and/or others' (or mutual) interests vs. mine.

No. Reasons why I am not into what other people like are the same reasons why they aren't into things I like.

Last edited by League_Girl on 10 Mar 2013, 8:21 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'm pretty much aware that not many people are into the things that I like. Once or twice a day I'll make a reference about The Kinks on WP, but I don't go on about them like I went on about Routemasters which is still one of my special interests. I'll spend the rest of my day on WP posting about different topics and I join other people's threads about their own special interests. I remembered the lesson that I've learned about the previous interest. Not everybody appreciates The Kinks and I didn't want somebody making me their project by trying to train me not to talk about them and making me hate them as a result, so I've decided to expand on my topics of conversation and talk about a variety of things. I remember not having any feelings towards Routemasters in 2007 and 2008.

I learned a long time ago that people generally don't want to hear about my interests, after I was frequently ridiculed for talking about Sonic The Hedgehog a lot at school.

Now I just don't talk to people about my interests, so I wouldn't know if they like the same things as me or not.

I find it far more annoying when someone has an interest that can't be shared.

There are certain things that are near universal in their appeal.

Sports, movies, musics, etc etc.

Than there are those that have obsessions that are near impossible for another person to like.

It's so frustrating because I generally make an interest in getting interested in someone elses stuff.

Definitely, I have certain interests that I'm very obsessed with and if other people aren't, it really bothers me. I can't understand why people like a lot of things; they just seem silly and pointless to me.

In real life, I've learned not to bore people with my interests when I was in my early teens. I became very quiet and only spoke of things that everybody else was. If I didn't have anything universal to talk about, I didn't say anything.

It doesn't bother me that others don't share my interests. What does bother me is impression that my interests are viewed as inferior and of little or no importance to those around me (family mostly). I learned in childhood that sharing my interests with others was not acceptable. I understand that part of it was how often I would go on about my interests and how long I'd talk, often while they were trying to do other things (I was a little kid at the time). Now I don't share my interests as much as I used to.

I find it very difficult to understand why other people don't share my interests. I don't see how they could think that something that I find wonderful is boring or bad. I get very upset whenever anyone says anything bad about my interests.

I don't talk about mine very much as people just look down on them so I keep them to myself.
Yet they would talk for hours on end about Football (Aussie rules) and then look at you as if you have two heads if you say your not interested.

this is what I don't get, In social settings with people other then family I talk very little now a days about my SI's unless asked, ditching most of my social abillity and pesonallity in the process only to hear hours of home decorating ideas and stupid relationship talk all coming back to the same basic topics like a broken record, the same type of talk style I tend to get in trouble for.

Congratulations. You've won the Aspie of the Century Gold award.



(Not laughing at you but at us aspies, in a good way)