What types of situations would make you feel anxious and...

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What types of situations would make you feel anxious or stressed and at what age did it start to occur?

Being onstage in front of people makes me nervous. When I was in a band I barely looked at the audience. Too nerve wracking.

Being the new kid in school which happened every 1 to 3 years from 1st to 12th grade and then have moved around often as an adult. Being bullied and negatively scrutinized on the job or in school as it causes me to shut down and does not help at all. Meeting new people in general, moving to a new place, and being new and navigating my way around a new building, school, workplace, etc. Talking or presenting at a meeting, giving a presentation, going to a party and hardly knowing anyone, and walking around by myself in a very crowded mall or other venue.

Being given criticism, or meeting people who could potentially criticise me. This has been lifelong...I'm an extremely self-concious person and thus try to please everyone I can.

During my teens up until I was 18-19, socializing in general made me very nervous, so I avoided almost all social situations. I had an extreme fear of approaching people, making phone calls, or any interaction that would require my initiative.

Being on stage or giving speeches in class was not usually difficult for me.

What was was being singled out in any way, negative or positive.

I tried so much to act exactly like everyone else, and it seemed that people were always pointing that I was different, even when I was only two or three years old.

New situations that I was unfamiliar with or didn't know how to handle, or semi-familiar situations in which I was asked to do anything in any way that wasn't explicitly a way that I'd done before. For example, if I was getting ready to go to the store and a family member asked if I could get something for them, too, I would think about being in a situation where I'd have to go to the cash register and buy things separately, and that thought would make me just completely stop functioning, and not even go to the store. The more advanced or intricate behavior required in a social situation, the more terrified I'd be to attempt it.

Social situations from about 11 or 12 years old , crowded and/or noisy places (especially ones with flickering or flashing lights) from as far back as I can remember and hospitals or waiting for health results -I don't remember when that one started tbh.

I am Anxious when i am trying hard to get a point across to someone or when they make fun of something i say.

new places, new people, loud noises, new experiences, making a phone call, talking on the phone, asking for things, asking for help...
okay. let's just summarize and say anything that involves being around or conversing with people or experiencing new things/places.

always had social anxiety. as a kid (as soon as I could walk) if someone came up to me, I'd run the other way. my mom wanted to homeschool me, but sent me to pre school because my social skills were so terrible. the pre school though something was wrong with me because I wouldn't talk/play with anyone. my parents didn't take up their recommendation of having me evaluated -__-

Crowds!, meeting new people, barking dogs, yelling neighbors, very fast and heavy traffic. Basically anything that might require a quick response.
This has all been lifelong except for the driving. The driving didn't become an issue until recently because I'm a fairly new driver.
My sensitivity to these things goes up and down depending on my level of general stress. If I'm generally fine, it's not a problem. I can power through.
If my stress level is high, I'll have panic attacks because my downstairs neighbor and his girlfriend are having a loud argument. Or because other drivers are being exceptionally stupid.

Most situations make me anxious. I'm a highly anxious person and I have been since I was a child. I was afraid and anxious of a lot of things as a child: water, insects, pulling out baby teeth, spiders, social situations (I refused to participate in certain games in preschool because I was so afraid of being in the center of attention) etc.

Nowadays the situations which make me the most anxious are:

- Meeting new people
- Presentations
- Crowds (they make me agitated and annoyed)
- New places
- Too much noise
- Things that "belong to" generalised anxiety (which could be anything)
- People looking at me
- When things aren't organised/lined up the way I want them

Those are just a few examples. I could go on.

Being out in public. Although I am capable of going out alone, it still doesn't stop me from feeling anxious, especially when I start irrationally thinking that everyone passing is laughing at me.

Being obliged to socialise. This is what makes going on holiday awkward for me. I love going on holidays and having a nice break away, but whoever I go with always has to socialise, even if they don't really want to. Then it makes me feel standoffish, so I feel I have to socialise too, and I come on holiday to relax, not to be pressured into something I can't be bothered to do. Then it causes stress.

Moving schools, which happened more than I'd like, although the thing that shot my chronic stress levels through the roof was the acquisition of my first job at a fast food restarant. I was never fast enough to keep up with the orders and dirty tables, had to be on my feet for four to five hours at a time, had to understand verbal instructions - which I'm bad at generally - in a loud, fast-paced environment, and when I invariably got them wrong had to listen to my superiors correct me over and over, and I had to plaster a fake smile on my face in front of the customers and act happy to see them, not to mention, I was downright terrified of my boss because I knew when he was there he'd be scrutinising my every move, so on the walk to work every day I'd be terrified of seeing his car in the parking lot, and if I did, I panicked and invariably screwed up worse than I did in general. Needless to say that job lasted less than a year, and I don't plan on trying fast food service again.

Let's see.

New situations.
Unpredictable events.
Being forced to do something without having prepared for it.
Having anyone but myself control what happened to my body, from doctors' appointments to restraints.

As far as I can tell all of these things have caused anxiety since I was born, possibly before.

When I was around two years old I discovered what death was, and have been dealing with existential anxiety since then. Connected to this is the fear of not being able to do something useful with my life, the fear of failure, and the fear of ruining someone else's life or even just ruining their day.

I am well aware of what causes anxiety for me, but that doesn't mean I can control it, because my mind and my emotions don't always connect effectively.

Tests, exams, and assignment submission. Also, being asked questions I don't know the answer for, or my OCD rules being violated. This is "bad" anxiety. I do experience anxiety in other situations, but somehow it feels more like adrenaline rush than anxiety, and I actually crave those situations.

Too many things to write down! When I am out of control such as when I get a large bill that is not correct and having to deal with officialdom that doesn't listen. In a work situation I can deal with things but as soon as it is personal I get so stressed. I have to go on a course for work next week. It is at a venue I am familiar with so I am not too stressed but if it was somewhere new, I would have to check it out first and would worry. If I had a meeting in the city, I would agonise for ages how to get there. The bus is scary as I tried to take the bus some time ago and it did not show up. Parking is easy but hugely expensive, etc etc. However, I would not put off doing something because it makes me anxious.

Places that i am not familiarise with also crowded places can me anxious as well.