Ever Feel Like You Irritate People?

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Sometimes, after a bad patch when I've said the wrong thing one too many times to friends or family, I can't help but wonder if they're irritated with me and the way I am, or if they wish I were normal. I wonder if they feel guilty about feeling that way since I can't really help it, or if it only frustrates them more that I can't, because it means I'll keep doing it over and over. I kind of feel guilty for being autistic when I think of things like that, and I wish I could stop saying stuff that annoys people without realising it, because as funny as Sheldon is on TV, I don't really want to be him in real life.

I often wonder if I irritate my family members by always talking about whatever I'm thinking/feeling instead of asking about how they're doing. It's not that I don't care, it's just that I'm so wrapped up in my own mind that it's hard to remember that other people have feelings too.

I must irritate people because I talk a lot about things that others may not be interested in. Just this Christmas my wife and I traveled to Florida to visit my uncle and his family, and she had to keep kicking me and texting me to tell me to stop talking about my job. I just like to talk! I hate when I think I'm irritating somebody though, that's the worst feeling.

yes, I get people pisses off at me all the time.

Cherish the fact that you are aware that you might be irritating others and are concerned about it, for it is this which separates us from the the common as*holes. Really, it's a valuable piece of self awareness, and as long as you don't let it obsess you (you can't please everyone), it will serve you well in dealing with other people throughout life.

i KNOW i piss off people just for being alive. this was drummed into my dear little ear from an early age.

You should try and drum that out of your ear blabs, that's not healthy.

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i'd rather drum it out of the deliverance-styled yahoo neighborhood i live in.

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I'd imagine moving would be easier. Olympia is cheap, and you'd be near the gang.

when i last had to shop around for a place to live [2007/8] the cheapest "move-in" condition houses in oly cost about $150k, but in shelton it was half of that amount, and that was all the duckies i could scrape together at that time. since i'm paying off a big hospital bill now i'm even less likely to be able to move. but when i get my pension at age 59 & 1/2, i'm outta there.

People irritate me back in equal measure so I think it's about equal!

I don't see that I have to be like the average person - it's not my role to be

If they don't like me as I am they can talk to someone else

I'm not here to please or be 'good enough' for them

Life is infinitely better without people who want me to be someone I'm not

Usually they irritate me.

How can I know, if they don't tell me?

I worry if I annoy people. Last week the bus broken down not too far away from my home, and because I am friendly with the female driver I had, I offered to stay with her for a little while. She said she didn't mind at all, but for some reason I had a feeling she didn't really want me there. She phoned her boyfriend and paced about while on the phone to him, then afterwards she sat on a bench further down the road, leaving me standing there feeling awkward. So I went up to her and she was like, ''you'd better go, the mechanics will be along soon and I don't quite know what they will do with the bus.'' I did go, but I did feel a little hurt because I wondered if she was annoyed with me waiting with her. Fair enough if she wouldn't have wanted anyone waiting with her, but I tried to imagine one of the other passengers she speaks to staying with her on a broken down bus for company (even when their home is in walking distance) and she letting them and talking to them, etc.

You can pick up the signs

If you are talking and the person just replies with 'mmm' and 'yeah' ie one-word type responses, without asking you any interested questions about what you are saying, they are probably fed up with the subject and want to move onto something else. There will often be a bored tone to the 'yeahs' as well lol

Also people might rub the back of their neck with their hand - this is often a clear non-verbal sign that you are making the person feel awkward or fed up and is an unspoken way of saying 'you are being a pain in the neck'

A person looking at their watch or at a clock on the wall is another obvious sign they are fed up/bored and their mind is wandering

Facial expression is a major one too

Do they have a friendly, encouraging expression on their face or are they frowning and giving you a 'What are you on about?!' confused or irritated type of look

When you talk to someone you monitor their face for signs of how what you say is being received by them

Yes I do. I can tell by the tone of their voice and when they get mad at me and also it was so obvious in high school because of how kids treated me. They say things like "Listen," "Pay attention" "stop asking questions."

I think I irritate my husband too because he has told me he keeps himself in his room because of me.