Social Chit Chat

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Do you enjoy social chit chat? If not why?

What exactly do you consider social chit chat to be?

Do you enjoy the act of socialising just for the sake of socialising? If not why?

Do you desire friends/companionship or to share bonds with others (even if only with a life companion or one close friend etc)?

Do you enjoy social chit chat? If not why? No.

What exactly do you consider social chit chat to be? Two or more people standing around talking about nothing. Boring!

Do you enjoy the act of socialising just for the sake of socialising? If not why? No. It's a waste of time. I could be doing something else more constructive.

Do you desire friends/companionship or to share bonds with others (even if only with a life companion or one close friend etc)? Yes.

Nothing more to be said.

I'd be impressed if you could get a consistent definition of socialising......

I absolutely can't stand it when some drone talks to me about the weather or some inane BS.

person: "Nice weather out there today eh?"
me: "Sure, if you think the weather is anything more than a subjective projection, and we happen to be having the same subjective experience.. otherwise there is no weather 'out there'"
person: "...." *walks away*
me: 'Finally, they're gone'

I can do it if required but don't have to that often as I don't interact with many people

I don't find it very interesting but it's the language most Nts talk in
As soon as any conversation starts getting interesting to me, that's the exact point at which they will find it too 'intense'
and back away from it so we usually talk at complete cross-purposes

I do it as self-defense against worse NT habits. I do not enjoy it all.

As a result, I am sure many acquaintances think I am obsessed with the weather and upcoming holidays.

I don't do social chit chat. I enjoy socialising with my daughter, but we have interesting conversations.

It depends on the circumstance. There would have to be a purpose to it to make it Tolerable. To make it Enjoyable, it would have to be people that I know and like or a topic that I really like talking or learning about.



It could be the nonsense niceties one has to exchange at work passing by in the hallways (which I just about tolerate), or it can be more involved chatter at a party/gathering
A common problem is at work I'm on auto pilot so I can sort of fumble it like:

Me: "Hey how's it going?"
Other: "Good, and you?"
Me: "Good, and you?" (urp )

Recently at work there was a "social gathering" where food was served. I focused mostly on the food. One friend of mine attended and we spoke for about 5-10 minutes, and after that I just stuffed my face and drank a glass of something alcoholic. I didn't really feel like talking to my other coworkers so I just left.



I am not sure I understand this fully. There should always be a purpose to socializing, even if it is simply to learn how to socialize better or to keep a friendship going, or whatever. Otherwise I don't understand the purpose of doing something purposeless. I know that if you don't socialize with some people that they will take it personally, and I guess it depends on how much I value what their feelings are about me as to whether I decide to make the effort. I do try to find commonalities so that I can enjoy some of it--if it is an event I would not otherwise subject myself to. If the socializing revolves around food (which many times it does, unfortunately) then I am likely to bury myself in the food, to my chagrin.



I am married and am still learning about this strange thing called Love.

1. Not really no. Why? It seems to lack a certain degree of substance. I am not sure how else to describe it. But if we are not exchanging information (relevant to things of interest) I tend to have a really hard time caring or paying attention to it. I just seem unable to help it. I . .. drift away.

2. No. Because . . . why pointlessly be social to be social?

3. I have a gf of 9 years. I know a few other people I see socially and for religious purposes (i am a member of a druid grove) but i do not like need to have like friends all the time.

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