why do i have such a tough time understanding me?

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sometimes when i try and explain something, people dont understand and i have to repeat myself, my voice is clear, they should understand

It may help to directly ask people if they follow or what it is they don't understand. They may not always be honest with you. They may say they understand when they don't. But if you're sincere, some people will tell you what it is they're not getting.

Also, there's more to articulation than just speaking clearly. It's important to remember other may not think and comprehend the way you do, so you may have to "cover all bases" when explaining.

Your brain works differently, so it's no surprise if the way you verbalize comes out differently. Haven't you yourself heard someone say something and not get it, even though they were enunciating properly? That even happens with the written word. Sometimes you have to go over a sentence a few times before it clicks.

Like the other responder said, get someone trustworthy; a parent, teacher, even your doctor to evaluate your speech pattern for you. You may be putting words out of context some. You know like, how Yoda puts words out of context. I still do that sometimes when typing and I'm sure I do it sometimes when talking too. Probably something along those lines. No biggie.

It is also possible that you have learned difficult words that ordinary people do not know.

Folks who study a special interest often learn jargon that isn't recognizable to anyone outside that specialty.

The people you talk to need to know the context--what game or program you are talking about?--no matter that it is the hottest thing right now.

It takes quite a bit of practice to be able to talk about your special interests in simple terms everyone can understand--even worse if you are an Aspie who hasn't learned that most people don't care whether you are totally accurate or not--2 months, not a 30 second pause and the answer of 7-1/2 weeks.

This is kind of funny considering the topic at hand, but I have no idea what this string of words and numbers is supposed to mean!

LOL yes, very good point. That happens to me often.

Many Aspies are far too precise.

If someone asks how long it took to make that Star Wars R2D2 model--the answer is 2 months, not 7-1/2 weeks.

I have this issue all the time and it drives me crazy. I think people don't always listen to your actual words, no matter how clear and simple they are, and instead guess what you mean based on other factors.

Example: I once asked someone if they had resources for parents with special needs and they asumed that I was looking for help for my child with special needs. This is only one example, but I think they looked at me, thought (without even consiously thinking) that I looked "normal" and sounded "normal" and must be "normal". NTs put too much emphasis on other factors and end up ignoring the actual information being given to them in the process. In my oppinion this is one of their challanges and not ours.