Matters of "common sense"

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I don't understand things that are assumed to be common sense. An example would be in the chat rules:

How would I know what another person would consider gross or offensive? And how would anyone else know what I consider gross or offensive? I'm not a mind-reader. I hoped that of all places at least this one would be free of such concerns. Sadly for me, such vague rules like this permeate our society. For example, the United States Supreme Court says that freedom of speech only applies to things not considered "obscene" by community standards.

How am I supposed to react to rules like this? I can ask or copy a random person and hope they are somewhat typical, but this leaves a lot of room for error and endangers my independence. I can basically ignore the rule until there are consequences, but this can lead to trouble. I can be overly cautious and try to avoid anything that even remotely approaches the rule, but this is a huge inconvenience and still no guarantee of success (I am a bad guesser). I can research the origin of the rule and try to ascertain what it covers, but this is time-consuming and not always possible. I can wait and observe enough people until I see some kind of consensus forming, but I hate people. Is there some better way to deal with these rules that I am overlooking?

PS - Pregnancy and babies are what I consider gross and distasteful. But I am not selfish enough to expect others to abide by my personal view.

The rule is about conversation on those topics, not about mentioning the topic. You would be informed that the topic you brought up was in some way objectionable and you would then be expected to stop talking about it and change the subject.

What is and isn't ok in chat rooms usually changes by the hour because of the turnover of chatters. While some groups may be made up of people who aren't offended by most things, some groups may be made up of people who are offended by almost everything. That's how it is in every chatroom, and unless the chatroom has a rule that bans a particular topic, you are free to discuss whatever topic you like as long as no one else in the chat says they are offended by it. Of course all chats usually ban racial, ethnic and religious slurs and many ban profanity and giving out personal information in the chatroom itself. Those kinds of things are usually listed in the rules, but it's usually safe to just assume that none of what is considered rude language should be used in chat.

In other words, when you agree to the chat rules you are agreeing to stop talking about something or stop saying a certain word or phrase when asked to do so by another chat member or a moderator.