How do you act when excited about your interests?
How do you act when you get really excited about your interests?
Sometimes I get so excited I don't really know what to do with myself so I just jump up and down (or bounce up and down if I'm sitting down). Happened yesterday for example. I was watching the stars and I got so excited and fascinated I didn't know what else to do. So I jumped up and down.
Other times I act act/behave differently when I'm excited about things. I'm really into chemistry and today we had a brilliant Chemistry class at university. I got all excited about the organic chemistry and I talked a lot. I'm usually a quiet and very introverted person but when really enjoying something (like Chemistry in this case) I ask a lot of questions and I talk a lot (I often say things over and over again) etc. I even get louder than usual (I even answered questions in front of the class today which is very unusual for me). I think the teacher noticed my enthusiasm because he asked me if I enjoyed the class (not in front of everyone). I said I did and I also told him I really like Chemistry and that I spend time at home (on my free time) reading about it. He smiled and said "okay". Not in a rude way but it sounded a bit like he thought I was talking too much.
Anyway, after I left the class I started to go over everything in my head. Everything I had said, how I behaved and things like that. I started to regret how I had acted and I thought that people (including the teacher) probably thought I was really weird and annoying. I started to feel really stupid and I got all anxious. I know that's probably social anxiety and it might just be all in my head, but still.
What do you think? Was I too excited about things? How do you act when you're really enthusiastic about interests? Do you ever get anxious about it?
Yeah, the very interest, like just mentioning the interest gets me very excited and anxious to do something about it. If like when someone asks me about a question about something, I do often ramble beyond the question, yet I do feel I need to get the point accross.
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I start talking faster than my mind works and often make a fool out of myself. My interest is cars, as in Antique/Sports/Exotic makes and models, and I get such an adrenaline rush when I go to a show or auction that I'm sure I sometimes bounce up and down.
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These days I just get happy, as we all do. My mood is better, I feel excited, I'm anticipating having an awesome time doing one of the things I enjoy, I smile.. etc. My body language surely shows I'm in good mood, but I find it's a lot more internal than external - I just feel... good, well, happy, balanced, content, fulfilled etc.
I'm not sure if I ever got hyper-excited about special interests as a kid, but observing my more-Aspie-than-I've-ever-been 8yo nephew get excited about something he smiles, jumps up and down, runs around the house, squeals and shouts happy things (YES! I'm SOOOOO Happy & E X C I T E D to go to _____ and do _____ with grandma & grandpa today!") etc and really expresses his excitement.
As for doing any of these "childish," or more Autistic behaviours as an adult.. they may get some awkward glances from some people, but f 'em, who cares? You ought not to, especially sine these reactions are beyond your control, but also because wtf-ever - they're expressions of happiness in the way you express them. Just be happy, and be happy being different, and if others have a staring problem with it then feel sorry for them that they may be incapable of being as happy and excited about something as you are, or feel sorry for them that they feel a need to suppress expressing feeling happy when they're excited about something as a young child on Christmas morning. Perhaps it's them who has the problem and could learn from your example of just being free to be who you are at all times. No one should ever feel bad or self conscious about being happy, no matter how it happens to automatically be expressed.
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A bit off topic, but I just had to say thank you for reminding me of my favourite snow memory. Sure, I've been snowboard hundreds of times, been snowkiting several times, tried luge, been snowmobiling, spent weekends staying at mountains, live in a city with the ocean on one side and ski mountains on the other.. but my favourite snow memory: hanging out at my deaf friends' house with my God daughter when she was just over a year old and was standing at their window sill staring wide-eyed outside and saw the snow starting to fall.. her eyes widened further with excitement and she raised her tiny little hands up and did the sign language sign for snow. So incredibly cute, just melts my heart.
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I have a race car and he season is a 5 weeks away, just thinking about that and what I have been doing to the car over the off season to make it better makes me bounce and stim in other ways, knowing we got a good car coming along that should be capable of maybe winning makes me so excited.
I get interested. I don't jump around or anything. You know in the movies where a scientist finds something interesting, mutters "My God" under his breath and then three days later it shows him putting the finishing touches on something? That's me. A movie series, a TV show, a book, whatever, I do a marathon session until I'm done.
I don't jump up and down in front of people I don't know. I do so when I'm alone or around family and/or boyfriend. They don't care about it. They just "think it's cute". In front of other people I usually act the way I did yesterday in chemistry class: talk a lot, repeat things, ask questions, talk louder than usual etc.
I do that too with TV-shows by the way. No matter how many seasons. I like it.
I'm not sure if I ever got hyper-excited about special interests as a kid, but observing my more-Aspie-than-I've-ever-been 8yo nephew get excited about something he smiles, jumps up and down, runs around the house, squeals and shouts happy things (YES! I'm SOOOOO Happy & E X C I T E D to go to _____ and do _____ with grandma & grandpa today!") etc and really expresses his excitement.
As for doing any of these "childish," or more Autistic behaviours as an adult.. they may get some awkward glances from some people, but f 'em, who cares? You ought not to, especially sine these reactions are beyond your control, but also because wtf-ever - they're expressions of happiness in the way you express them. Just be happy, and be happy being different, and if others have a staring problem with it then feel sorry for them that they may be incapable of being as happy and excited about something as you are, or feel sorry for them that they feel a need to suppress expressing feeling happy when they're excited about something as a young child on Christmas morning. Perhaps it's them who has the problem and could learn from your example of just being free to be who you are at all times. No one should ever feel bad or self conscious about being happy, no matter how it happens to automatically be expressed.
You're probably right. I shouldn't have to hide who I am. Just wish I could get rid of my stupid social anxiety. It's weird; when I get so excited about something the way I got during the chemistry class yesterday, it's like my confidence skyrocket and it's like all anxiety just goes away for a while. I noticed there was such a difference in the anxiety level during the class and after the class. During the class I couldn't think about anything but organic chemistry and how awesome it was. After the class I got back to my "normal neurotic self" and I started to feel anxious around people again (because I felt like they were invading my personal space, they were being noisy etc). Weird.
So if we behave strangely and somewhat childish, how do NTs behave when they get excited about their interests? People on the spectrum can't be the only ones behaving that way when really enjoying something, right?
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Not weird at all.
The human mind is only capable of one single thought at a time. We can think of many things in rapid succession, but only one thought at a time. When you're absorbed in chemistry, you're thinking about chemistry (and being Present in the moment & thus happy) and there's no room for an anxious thought. Once you're no longer being present, and thinking about something else - in come the worries and anxious thoughts. Thoughts dictate emotions, and emotions dictate actions. Think anxious thoughts and you're going to feel anxious, occupy your mind with thoughts about the moment and you're going to be focused and present and happy. It's a bit like distracting someone who is in pain so they can't focus on the pain and won't notice it as much. Stop thinking about things that cause you "pain," (anxiety) and you won't notice anxious feelings so much.
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So if we behave strangely and somewhat childish, how do NTs behave when they get excited about their interests? People on the spectrum can't be the only ones behaving that way when really enjoying something, right?
Well, certainly. There's the modern archetype of a football fan with an unfortunate wife who has to listen to shouting about something she doesn't care about in the slightest while bringing the man more beers, among many other similar ones. Nothing aspie about that.
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