How to find help when it piles up on you

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This is my first time posting here. I have had some major stress hits in my life just recently.; Finalized my second divorce, have to move out of the rental house by the end of the month, but have no place to go to and not currently enough money to find a place (exwife blew so much I had to take out several loans to make ends meet and now paying them off). Wrecked my truck with only liability insurance so having to use what little extra money I have to try to fix my truck. Finally, I am at that place I get at a job I have been at for a while where I can't take the stress and pressure any longer. I am on the verge of a major mental/emotional breakdown and don't know where to turn. I was diagnosed Aspergers a year ago, and while now I know what it is that makes everything so different to me than how it seems for everyone else, it of course doesn't change the way my mind processes things. What can an aspie do to find help when they get overwhelmed? I am almost 38 and don't know where to turn.

I don't know what resources you have available where you live, but when I have nobody to turn to, I find the internet a great source of support. These forums, for example. Or just googling stuff that bothers you, there's usually lots of advice out there, that even if it doesn't suit you, can promote your own ideas. Just my 2 cents if you don't have anything better right now and are in urgent need of support. An understanding and effective social worker would be great, of course.

I'm sorry about the distressing situation you are going through. And I'm sorry I cannot provide any practical help in finding a solution to your situation because I am not very familiar with the social services etc available.

It might be stupid to ask this, but do you have your family (or friends) who can temporarily let you stay with them? I think that's the first thing you need to resolve. Not knowing where to go after leaving the current place must be stressing you out.

Then you need to see a doctor about your mental health. I wonder if there is any government free service for that if you really don't have money. If you see a doctor maybe he can direct you to the right service.

You shouldn't drive yourself to a breaking point at work. I know you need the money, but you can't sacrifice your mental (and physical) health.

Sorry I'm only pointing out the obvious that you must already have thought of. Maybe you should mention your general area (which state, city etc) here on WP and ask what services are available in your area. There may be someone from your area who is familiar with those things.

First you need somewhere to stay. If people you know aren't an option, try local classifieds for a share house for the time being.
Put in an ad yourself, maybe offer some gardening/ other light work as part exchange for rent. (When your truck is fixed, you can offer your services in removals etc too)

Explain your situation at work, including your Aspergers. Offer practical solutions to relieve your stress -( I will take on more of A but need less of B right now)

Arrange to consolidate your loans to one smaller payment over a longer time.
When you are back on your feet, you can pay it off quicker.

Thank you for the helpful replies. I will try to find help locally, it's just so overwhelming I don't know what can happen to help immediately. My job shows a decent income, though it al goes right back out to pay loans and bills to the point that I have had sell personal items to keep gas in the borrowed car I'm driving, and my credit is so messed up I doubt there is any way to get a consolidation loan. The loans I did get are payday advance loans because they are the only thing I could do at the time. I live in Austin, and I know there should be lots of resources around here, but I really am pretty introverted and don't know much about anything around this city. I'm in a pretty depressed state. I have been on anti depressants for years, but with things going up and down, and there being so much more to my issues than just clinical depression, I'm really at a wall and don't know what to do to continue on.

Some people find bankruptcy gives them a chance to start again if the bills are overwhelming.
You might be able to get a financial councillor/ advocate who could negotiate with your creditors.
Wish I could be more help!