Aspies vs. NT siblings - easier to relate to one type better

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Hey aspies,

Just wondering who all here has NT siblings and Aspie siblings and do you find that you get along better or relate better to your aspie brothers and sisters or your NT ones, or does it not make a difference.

I only have NT siblings, and as much as I love them, it can be hard sometimes to relate to them - as expected being an aspie. Nevertheless I would Never want to change, and even though we don't always see eye to eye I am still so lucky.

I've created a poll, to see how many of y'all have NT Aspie or a mixture of neurology in siblings

(Note the first vote for all NT siblings is mine lol)

I have three younger sisters, all of whom are NT, so I can't say what it's like living with an aspie sibling vs an NT one, but I will say this: my mom is NT and my dad's an aspie, and it's way easier for me to understand and have a real conversation with him than it is for me and my mom: she and I don't see eye to eye on a lot of philosophical topics regarding morality entrenched with emotion and such, it's a lot easier for my dad and I to brush past all the irrelevant surface emotions inherent in a topic (population control or religion for example) and get down to the bare facts to sort the matter out. I love my mom, but I infinitely prefer having conversations with my dad as we understand each other so much better.

M dad has aspie traits and my mom is NT and so are my brothers. I could relate to all of them fine because I talked to them fine and played with my brothers fine. It was when they got older it got harder because our interests changed and we drifted apart in my teens. We didn't even play together anymore like we used to. Mom and I were having a great conversation earlier about parenting and humiliation and child discipline.

I always say it depends on the person so a neurological wiring doesn't matter. I have had great conversations with NTs and aspies.

I am not sure what it was like having me as a sibling. I can imagine annoying. I don't know if I was hard to relate to. I am sure I was because that would explain rejections I got as a kid. But yet my brothers did fine with me. I played with their toys, we played with my dolls and played on my swing set or chalked outside, watched TV or played video games, played on the computer and I would watch them play a game on it and they did so with me too. We chased each other around the house, played board games, did puzzles, jumped on my parents bed. Typical kid things siblings do. But I was always in control. Also the fact they were younger than me by three and five years so that may have helped.

I wish the poll had an "only child" option, because that's what applies to me.

There's also the "Most likely NT but suspect one might be an Aspie" option that's missing...

I only have one brother, but we get along fine. He is NT. We still have disagreements, though, but we can relate to one another because we both have problems around food. He is extremely picky, but not as bad as me. We both have odd eating habits, where he'll eat the same things day in day out and I will, too. He sticks to the same things, just like me. And certain tastes and textures really bother him, but it's not on my level for sure.
I guess it helps that he's an introvert. I tend to get annoyed by loud, energetic people who want to spend lots of time with me. When we were kids, we'd just read books next to each other in silence, or we'd play with lego or watch TV. It was nice to have company while not having to talk constantly, haha.

I have three younger NT sisters. Growing up with no clue why I was different was so much fun, haha.

You don't have an option for someone who has both AS and NT siblings.

In my case, I only have one brother, and he's NT. Or more likely BAP (autistic traits, but not enough to be autistic). But despite us falling into different neurotypes, he thinks more like me than anyone else I know. He's a lot more social than me, but we get into the same kinds of negative thought patterns, and we're both very artistic, and we like the same traits in people.

And he's extremely understanding. He's told me that since he was very young, he's been trying to figure me out. As a result, he gets along really well with autistics. He's a very sensitive, caring boy who gets really upset whenever he sees someone getting picked on. And he knows how to spot overload, and shows appreciation for intense interests, and so forth. He's a really great guy.

I have two sisters (A and J) and they are both autistic, (and have a few other delays so their IQ is in the mentally ret*d range) and much further in the spectrum than I am. We fight a lot, but a large chunk of that is us just being siblings. We fight over the bathroom. About touching each other's things. They speak in mostly one or two word sentences, but one gesture or glance from my sister A (She's the queen diva of the house) and we know, s**t's about to throw down.

But in the end, we love each other very much. We hug a lot. (They express their love for us through hugs and kisses rather than words) A makes me laugh when I'm sad. J does this happy stimming when she's so overwhelmed with joy and it makes me grin so big to see her so happy. I hold A when she has a meltdown and I'm the only one she wants to touch her. J and I both stim the same way and sometimes we do it together. I used to interpret them to our parents when we were little and they were completely nonverbal. A and J compete to see who can finish cleaning the kitchen the fastest.

I love them and they love me and each other, and that's all that matters.

Same here. My younger sisters are NTs aged 16, 14, and 10. My parents are NT as well. I don't know where I got any aspie genetics from. I can get along with my sisters most of the time, but I have very little in common with them. My 14 year old sister can be a real brat, but that is expected of most 14 year old girls.

Thanks for answering! I originally had an "only child" and a "mix of both" option, but somehow they didn't show up. I'm crap at asking poll questions

Surprised there's not an option for both. I have one NY and one ASD sibling.

My only brother has childhood disintegrative disorder.
I don't know if it's easier to relate to him or not.

I have a younger brother, who is an aspie. He was my only friend when we were children, and is still my best friend today. I think my life would have been much harder if I'd had an NT sibling instead.

My sister is an NT and so is my mother this means i am the only Aspie in the family.

Why is there no mixed option?