I had a awkward encounter

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I met this guy on my way home who asked me for a cigarette. I don't normally give away cigarettes to stranger but I made a exception this time. He asked me for a lighter and asked me where I am from. He held my lighter while he was trying to initiate a conversation . He told me his name and where he's from. He happens to be from a neighboring country of mine. He then said you don't believe me. He offered to show me his id and I told I believe you and I have to go so lit your cigarette. I don't understand why he claimed I didn't believe him. Do you think it's because I could have given the wrong facial expression?

Maybe he judged you by your facial expressions.
Maybe he misinterpreted awkward silence as "you don't believe me".

I think you were just sending a wrong signal/vibe without realizing it. You must have been feeling uncomfortable and it must have shown itself, which he interpreted as "This guy's lying". I think something like that happens quite often. My nervousness has often been interpreted as anger, grumpiness, unfriendliness, rudeness etc. You never know how other people interpret the false signals you send.

I'm not sure if it was something you did because I didn't see it. It's possible that he just assumes people don't trust him. I'm not sure what to call that attitude. Paranoia? I don't know if that fits but the point I'm trying to make is that while you might have been sending the wrong signals it could also have been an issue of his which had nothing to do with you.