I dug this up:
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The Peter Pan Syndrome
“The little boy who does not want to grow up”
Dan Kiley
Dan Kiley authored the book, The Peter Pan Syndrome (1983). Based on research of the effects of male socialization on relationships, Kiley developed the clinical diagnosis of the Peter Pan Syndrome. Males diagnosed with having this syndrome exhibit the following psychological traits:
* Emotions become paralyzed and exaggerated
* Anger turns into rage
* Joy turns into hysteria
* Disappointment develops into depression or self-pity
How the Peter Pan Syndrome Affects Men’s Lives
Males diagnosed with this syndrome
* Have difficulty expressing love
* Refuse to share their feelings
* Lose touch with their emotions and have no idea what they feel
* Procrastinate
* Feel guilt and have difficulty in relaxing
* Have no real connection with friends. Believes friends can only be bought
* Easily panic and feel desperately alone in their attempts to belong
The idea of apologizing for inappropriate behavior is not an option. Blame is placed on other’s shortcomings so they do not have to focus on their own limitations and vulnerabilities. Alcohol or drug abuse is used to get high in order to drown out the existence of daily life challenges.
Relationships with Parents
Men suffering from the Peter Pan Syndrome have a
* Hang up with their mother
* The anger and guilt they feel are interwoven, masking their conflicted feelings for the mother
* The relationship with the father is estranged
* They believe that the father’s love and approval are unobtainable
* Have problems with authority figures
* Tend to be emotionally immature
* Exhibit silly behavior
* Have a macho attitude that hides their deep inner insecurities in attempts to hide the fear of rejection
Relationships with Women
When the male forms attachment with a woman they
* Become extremely jealous and exhibit violent outbursts
* Become easily provoked to fits of rage when a woman asserts any independence
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More men than women affected
Peter Pan Syndrome can affect both sexes, but it appears more often among men. Some characteristics of the disorder are the inability of individuals to take on responsibilities, to commit themselves or to keep promises, excessive care about the way they look and personal well-being and their lack of self-confidence, even though they don’t seem to show it and actually come across as exactly the opposite.
The UGR professor declares that these people are usually scared of loneliness, which is why they try to surround themselves with people who can meet their needs. “They become anxious when they are evaluated by their work colleagues or their superiors, given they are completely intolerant towards any criticism. Sometimes they can have serious adaptation problems at work or in personal relationships.”
Another characteristic of people suffering from the ‘Peter Pan Syndrome’ is that they are constantly changing partners and looking for younger ones. “Whenever the relationship starts to ask for a high level of commitment and responsibility, they become afraid and break it up. Relationships with younger women have the advantage of being able to live by the day without any worries, and they also involve less future plans, therefore less responsibilities.”
So it basically describes mainly men who're irresponsible and need to be catered for and who're manipulative, act narcissistic and feel above common standards because they have issues with themselves.
I don't see how it's related to autism.
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07 Feb 2009, 12:16 am
