"Active but odd" - examples.

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It is often said in resources that people with AS have an "active but odd" way of socialising.

Can you give me real-life examples?

Well, when I was younger, I had no problem talking to people I was acquainted with. I was actually quite outgoing along those lines. The problem was that I was just using others as a sounding board. There was give and take. It was just me talking a blue streak, dominating conversation. I talked people's ears off without realizing it. I interrupted people without realizing it was rude. I said rude things that I didn't realize were rude. I was oblivious to the effect I was having on others and completely lacking in self awareness.

So I was socially active, but conducted myself socially in a very odd manner. Very atypical socializing skills or lack thereof.

People with Williams Syndrome are active-but-odd.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pyNe2TBQi8

Not exactly the same as AS (for one thing, we don't have hypersociability) but similar.

I'm not an extrovert, but I am socially active. I am interested in people, and I always have been.

One thing has always confused me, though. I remember when I was a child I used to be able to participate in imaginary play with other children and found it easy and fun. Also I sometimes loved to sit with another child and just talk about life and other general things. And I was into all the things most other children were into, like Pokemon (that was in at the time). I collected loads of Pokemon cards like all the other children did, and went around the playground asking other children (who weren't running around playing) to swap each other's cards, and everyone done it to random children because it was part of the conformity of the craze, so other children thought you were ''cool'' when you did this. And I remember attending birthday parties I was invited to and having great fun with the other children. And there's other things I can remember which made me a typical child......but I still didn't seem to make friends as well as I should have done as a child. And when I got to about 11 or 12, I realised how lonely I was and I always wondered why I was so lonely, being so I wasn't a stereotypical Aspie. I wasn't ''geeky'' or ''nerdy'' or anything like that. My mum says I might have not been on their wavelength, and social wavelength is a very subtle thing to explain.

As a kid I'd go up to strangers and ask them how old they were (because I was obsessed with peoples ages for awhile). I would go up to kids in my classes , indiscriminately, and ask if they were my friends. I'd recite rules and stories I'd memorized to kids in my class randomly. That's the kind of thing I think of as active but odd.

1. Bearded, poorly-dressed creeper who tries to talk to blonde women randomly on the subway. This is the U.S. of f*****g America! Nobody talks to other people on the subway or train!! Korea, maybe different. Even I would not talk to blond women on the subway, and I'm young and hot!! lol

2. Man who wears a pin that says "Don't assume I am against meaningless sex" (head of the aspie meetup group in my area. Like lol, who would have sex with him anyway? I sure wouldn't!)

3. Man who tells crude lesbian jokes to his co-worker without realizing that his lesbian boss is just around the corner and gets fired for it.

4. Schizotypal Ron Paul fan who starts talking about conspiracy theories involving the government every time he meets a new person.