5 Yr old kid immitaes peers

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My Son V is very smart kid.He loves to be with kids..but he just immitates them, that makes the fellow person very irritating..I told V many times not to do that way, interact with them..he says ok, and then does the same..
friends can you please help me how i can make my son understand..

Have you shown him how to interact with them, as in sitting down with him and talking him through possible scenarios and the appropriate way to behave in them?

He doesn't intuitively know how to interact with others. Every bit of his social skills are intellectually processed vs. natural, hence observing his friends doing something and then imitating them as whatever they're doing must be what he's supposed to be doing in order to play whatever it is they're doing - it likely makes perfect logical sense to him. Sounds like you're literally going to have to show him how. Step by step, explaining your actions & then what his should be in return in whatever activity you're doing or conversation you're having so he gets the idea of back and forth interactions. Not sure if it would be advantageous or not to tell him that was the objective of your lessons ?? but you could just go through the process w/o explaining why you're doing it if you think he'd react better. Even just kicking a ball back and forth might be a good start if he's taken to copying his friends like he's their shadow. It'll teach him to pay attention and wait for the ball, then return the kick while you wait. Something like that may break his habit of trying to do the exact same thing as someone else at the same time they're doing it if that's what he's doing now. Well, it makes sense to me that it would, anyways. I suppose it depends on the kid.

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I always imitate people that's just how I socialise. If you want him to know you need to break down the activity and ask him what he want's to do first instead of him imitating. He doesn't know he's imitating he just can't process quick enough what he want's to do so he imitates first. If you're kicking a ball once you kick him the ball ask him what he want's to do with the ball instead of letting him imitate by kicking the ball back. He may take time to think about what he want's to do but that's ok, at least you gave him a chance to think for himself.

I never got the chance to think for my self because I didn't know I was imitating. If other people asked me what I want to do I wouldn't have a clue so it would take time for me to think and by then no one wanted to socialise with me and I would keep imitating.

Give him a chance and ask lots of questions on playing and reading body language, but don't give up on him. He needs you to help him through.

How about role-playing with him, teaching him how to handle certain kinds of social interactions?

Also, on the good side, chances are he's mentally storing these imitations of peers. At some point, he may start using them as a library of behaviors he can draw out in certain situations. (Kind of like a nonverbal equivalent of delayed echolalia.) This could potentially become quite helpful in the future.

Hi friends,
Thanks so much for ur replies..I wiil definitely take ur points..will keep trying to make him play well..

my suggestion would be to play games with him where he has to take turns, BUT copying someone else doesnt actually help him. for example taking turns guessing letters in a game of hang man .... he has to think of new letters at each turn.