Negative attitude about leaving home!

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Slightly over 1 year ago I said to my mum "I feel like I am ready to leave home soon" my mum said in response to my idea of flying the nest "well you know it might not be a good idea because you do things different". I think that comment was in regards to me being on the spectrum.


Regardless if its an unfair comment what might my mum mean by that in more depth?


I am unemployed and never had a proper job before. I am 23 years old

When people are ready to leave their home, they don't ask for permission. They just up and leave. Here are some possibilities to consider.

You can get a minimum wage job and move into a roommate situation where you'd only have to pay about $400/month.

You can get a part time or full time job and ask DSHS (welfare) to put you up in a room somewhere.

You can move out to a men's shelter and look for work from there. (Seattle has places like that).

You can stay at a friend's place while looking for work.

Aren't choices great?

I don't know exactly what your mother meant by that remark, but I am going through a similar situation right now.

I am almost 25 and have never lived alone before. I used to work, but I could never keep a job for more than a few months. I'm on disability now, and haven't worked in about a year and a half.

The house I am living in was just sold, and we have until the end up next month before it is time to move. Typically, I would move with my friend that I am living with now. We have lived together off and on for the past seven years, and he is basically my unpaid caretaker. Well, we have been "butting heads" a lot lately, and I would really like to live on my own for once. The problem with that is that I know its not possible for me.

My executive functioning skills are very poor. I can't drive and am scared of public transportation. I have poor communication with strangers. My memory is crap (important for paying rent/bills/etc.) Some days, I can't even walk out of my bedroom without having a panic attack.

When I think about having to buy my own groceries, travel to appointments, cook, clean, pay bills, talk to landlords, and everything else that is a part of living alone, I become very anxious and realize that I may not be able to do it alone. I have looked into an assisted living situation, but there are no openings at this time, so I think I'll have to settle with living with my friend again.

That is the condensed story.

I don't know you or your situation, but maybe your mother is referencing having trouble with the kinds of things that I mentioned?