How do you feel about neighbor noise

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Hi,

I've noticed for a while now that I am really sensitive to noise from my neighbours. Luckily I barely hear the people living above and next to me. BUT for example there must be somebody in another house or something who often listens to music in the evenings so loud that I can hear it in my flat. Not overly loud, but I instantly get super annoyed and either put in earplugs or use my headset and listen to music louder than I normally would.

I don't care so much about 'normal' noise. I know that when sharing walls with neighbors, it's not gonna be quiet 100% of the time. But I HATE unnecessary noise like loud music, TV or whatever. Whenever I get woken by construction noise or something - which is rare but happens - I hate the entire day. I often daydream about just having a house to myself with no neighbors but financially that's not gonna happen for a long time if ever. It's not even the noise itself so much - except if it wakes me up or keeps me from sleeping - it's mostly just that I want my privacy and ideally just don't want anybody around.

How about you?

I go insane and start wondering if suicide is an actual viable route to go for. Not kidding, I prefer complete silence. Static noise, why not. Unpredictable, loud noise? No thanks.

A bit of both for me; I do just have an unpleasant reaction to some noises, but there's definitely an element of feeling that my privacy has been invaded that also makes me anxious. I also don't like background noise in general, as I just can't concentrate on anything else when there is music or a TV playing in the background.

I can get very angry with people who make too much noise for no reason; for example, slamming instead of closing doors, revving engines just to show off, shouting when speaking would be loud enough. Even when I am alone in my home, I do everything very quietly, as if I don't want my sounds to leak out of my little bubble any more than I want other people's sounds leaking in.

My neighbor has a son who plays the drums all the time. I've never seen him but I was told he has a disability, so it doesn't bother me. If he didn't have a disability I'd be pissed.

When your nearest neighbor is in his 70s and lives half a mile away, you generally don't hear them making noise anyway.

A little bit of noise is reassuring when I'm well rested. When I'm trying to sleep, every sound can be torture.

If it's normal noises like some thuds, talking, music or cleaning with a vacuum cleaner then I have no problem as long as it doesn't get really loud, like talking so loud that I can actually understand what is being said. That is too loud. It also bothers me if someone starts to use their vacuum cleaner when I'm going to sleep, especially since that's against the rules of the building. I mean I usually go to sleep some time between 10 and 11 pm and this building has a rule that says no loud, unneccesary noises between 10 pm and 6 am. That definitely includes using a vacuum cleaner; no one needs one at night. Luckily this doesn't happen often. What annoys me the most are renovation sounds, which this building had a lot at one point, but there isn't really anything I can do when that happens than to go out for a walk or something if it gets too loud. There was also the time when I was living in another apartment that a neighbour of mine had a party, stopping it at 3 am. I wouldn't care otherwise but the music was so loud that I couldn't sleep! Besides, he was breaking the rules of the building, in that one there was a silence from 11 pm to 7 pm, so I had all the right to complain.

I'm also sometimes bothered by smells... nothing against it when someone cooks, even if it's something that smells bad in my opinion, but sometimes the hallway smells like cigarette smoke.

I really can't stand hearing music from neighbouring houses especially if all I can hear is the bass. It instantly drives me into meltdown territory. I want to go round to their house and..........perhaps it's best if I don't finish that sentence. I just can't cope with it at all. Fortunately I live in a fairly quiet area with lots of retired people so it is rarely an issue.

I relate to the "static noise" thing, as in continuous noise. For some reason, rhythmic and non-rhythmic noises drive me insane. Crickets chirping, hammers, talking... it drives me so far to the end of my wits I start to wonder how I can truly get away from everything.

When sharing partitions with people, best if you take the highest floor and at the end of the building away from the common areas. This would be easier to attain than a house.

But being a woman, I imagine you have other options. Just find a man with the right assets and move in

I used to live in a flat and it drove me nuts. Now I live in a house by myself and it's better. I still wear ear plugs to sleep, an acquired habit from the flat. When new, these are soft enough that you won't feel is in the ear:

Generally don't care about a little noise, or random noise that happens maybe 1-2 times a day, but repetitive and continuous noise, even if it is intermittent is disturbing. At my parents house we had immigrants from far away that kept screaming, dragging furniture around and talking loudly from 01:00 to 04:00 at times and it was impossible to visit my parents and sleepover during the last few years. I finally recorded them (as in a microphone just laying on the floor - i didn't exactly need CIA surveillance stuff - they were just so damn loud!) and i posted it on youtube (hidden link) and sent the link to the landlord.

If one listened closely to the recording, one could hear men talking loudly (don't know the language) then a woman coming in and criticizing them, then some shouting from the men followed by a woman crying... not hard to guess what happened there. The problem was centred around one idiot i identified which obviously had some mental issue and denied everything, called me and my sister racist, came with threats (obvious Hare-type), a few months later the men did not visit the apartment except on occasion, they obviously had been evicted by someone. A neighbour in a nearby highrise could see that the "man" in question was beating their little children. After that was reported they put up thick curtains so it was impossible to see what was going on. The first time we reported them, all men ran away and an little CHILD stood in the door had to defend the family when the guards came along to investigate the disturbance.

Last December (2017) every one of them packed up their s**t and moved away. I can finally visit my mother again and sleep in the living room for a full night - 6 years of hell.

I did fight back during the last time. Basically if they made any sound, i made sure the could not sleep from 07:00 to 11:00, which was their normal sleeping time during weekends. Pretty sure they did drugs, because they were paranoid as well.

Earlier in the same apartment, a local Swedish family lived there, same kind of s**t. Late night parties, moving furniture, and bouncing basketballs during the night. They also had to move, but they couldn't use the word "racist" so it was easier to make them go away. One guard that came by to investigate a disturbance told me that "even i in my profession has been called a racist, and i'm from Iraq."

Until a few months ago I was living in a building with drug addicts who would blast music at all times of day and night so loud you could hear it down the road, this made my life hell. Now I live in a quiet bungalow with normal levels of noise and averages noise do not bother me.

Bewildered; how can you possibly be that insensitive and egocentric as to literally broadcast your radio station to the rest of the neighborhood?

I feel miserable, trapped and pissed off. The walls are thin, the neighbor yells and has guests over practically every single day, they stomp through the building at all times of the day and night, and she and/or her guests do laundry multiple times per day. I can hear the washer and dryer rumbling in my bedroom.

I've literally fantasized about her dying, about her being injured and my not helping her and not calling 911 because I'm that desperate for sleep and relaxation.

I've had chronic insomnia for months because of her and desperately want to move away, but I have to be careful that I don't end up with more loud neighbors, a noisy town, and a lease I can't get out of. I'm waiting to see if the housing authority will grant me request for reasonable accommodations so I can move somewhere quiet and I can't wait much longer.

I do often wish I was rich enough to live in a detached house where I don't have to be so close to other people. The people in the apartment next to my boyfriend's are really annoying. Every week-end they are constantly in and out of their apartment, slamming doors and chattering loud outside our door. When their door slams, it makes all the other doors in the block shake, and it's OK when somebody goes out or in their door a couple of times, but these people are backwards and forwards slamming doors all day and even at night. If they haven't got visitors, they are still in and out because they always seem to be getting something from one of their many cars they seem to have, so the doors slam behind them. I wish they'd at least prop their door open if they have to come in and out 50 times an hour because it will quieten the noise. Sometimes my boyfriend's front door shakes so hard, that it sounds like somebody is breaking in.

Hate it. In fact my life was nearly almost ruined because of it, but that was a long time ago and I've told that story already. I can't believe how lucky I am to be living in a place where it's so quiet I sometimes wonder if I have any neighbors in the other apartments at all.