If you weren't born autistic, how do you think you'd be?

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02 Nov 2015, 6:04 pm

If you were never born autistic, how do you think you would be? How different would your life and situation be?



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02 Nov 2015, 6:06 pm

Probably a bit more of an as*hole, and in some kind of brokerage--successful or not successful I don't know.



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02 Nov 2015, 6:12 pm

Pros: I'd have a job, and would probably be married.

Cons: I might not have uniquely 'Aspie' talents.



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02 Nov 2015, 6:13 pm

If I was never born autistic, I probably would have went to college and went to clubs and grind on hoez. I'd probably be "netflix and chilling" with all of them Tinder hoes as well.

Sure I might have been unsuccesful with women but I doubt i'd be where i'm at now, a loser. Being autistic, means you're NEVER going to attract the preppy girls. You're just not. Out of all the aspie guys I know, not one of them is good with women. Pretty depressing stuff...


Probably would have been one of those popular kids in high school simply because i'm extroverted now. It's just the fact that I was born autistic makes it hard to connect socially. And I probably would have went off to college and do whatever...



Not would have come off as some special guy. Being 5 ft 3 and autistic is a double whammy! I just want a girl but that's never going to happen. Some people have to be sapped of their natural desires because they were born undesirable. It's unfair! I'm the bad egg in my family, I really am. I could have been something great.




God I hate being autistic!



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02 Nov 2015, 6:27 pm

Hmm, assuming age 4 when we moved here as the starting point...
I might have had more contact with the antisocial (no, not "don't like be around people", I mean "manipulate and hurt people") kid... dunno how I would have handled prolonged exposure to that...

I would probably have been accepted into the community here and the caregivers at kindergarden might not have hated me as much as they apparently did.

School might have been more enjoyable, even though IMO from an objective standpoint it was still cruel/not normal kids interacting in my primary school class. Something was always off, they had mannerisms the kids in middle and high school didn't have.
Anyway, I might have gotten into group activities, maybe drugs and sex, produced a baby at age 16 or gotten addicted to heroin.

Probably would have gotten braces and done more for my appearance, and visited the doctor more to get stuff about me fixed.
Might have had a significant other around my age now and some relationship experience.
Although I wonder how much living far out in the rural areas would have impacted my partygoing and girlfriend-having even if NT... maybe wouldn't have gotten to do that anyway.
Maybe by staying at a friend's house when partying...
I would probably have had more friends.
But maybe not, I mean NT kids get bullied too and might not have friends.

I mean I still would have been significantly visually impaired. I'm not even sure I would have been able to stay at a public school, had I properly addressed the problem.
Maybe would be married with kids and working my ass off trying to get by...
Or maybe successful, but hard to imagine, I didn't really have this kind of role models in my life, and I'm not sure I would have had them would I have been NT.

Overall, it's not that bad how it turned out.
Sure, I don't have a job, friends, relationship experience, had sex or plans for the future. I'm addicted to the Internet and some other stuff and kinda depressed at times, I have my quirks, I got bullied in school, I've been an outcast for most of my life. But overall it doesn't sound that bad tbh. Seriously, could have turned out far worse. 8O



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02 Nov 2015, 6:41 pm

^ I think a lot of my optimism it is due to my parents, who are not "normal" (I mean conventional) either.
They have never told me I'm (my existence is) wrong in any way. Of course we have disagreements about many things, but it was never stuff like "you need to be different", it was "you need to change things".



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02 Nov 2015, 6:52 pm

i'd be a rich doctor (i was for a while, until not being able to navigate hospital politics brought me down) and have a kid or two (i'm childless due to not finding a suitable partner until i was 52)



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02 Nov 2015, 6:55 pm

^ You know, kid/partner might have caused career problems too.
Maybe your interests would've been different. :o



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02 Nov 2015, 6:56 pm

School interaction would have been different.
Maybe you would have become a teenage mom.



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02 Nov 2015, 7:00 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Probably a bit more of an as*hole, and in some kind of brokerage--successful or not successful I don't know.


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THIS

For many years I used to say "I'd rather be who I am, even if I had to go through everything again..."...the more I know about myself, the less I like the other side. No bashing, just the truth.



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02 Nov 2015, 7:09 pm

I have multiple disabilities (I also have mild cerebral palsy, polycystic ovarian syndrome, major depressive disorder, and ADHD-PI). Because of the fact that it's pretty much impossible to separate my neurological disabilities (the CP, ADHD, MDD, and autism), I will answer the question "If you weren't born neurotypical, how do you think you'd be?".

I'd still be geeky, introverted, and a bookworm. However, I'd be less introverted. In fact, I could very well be ambiverted. I'd have a job in music, art, writing, childcare, or computers, a high school diploma, and quite likely, a college degree. If I wasn't married or engaged, I'd at least have one or two serious relationships under my belt. I would be a foster parent, growing my family that way. I would be able to exercise more to manage my PCOS. I'd interact with people my own age.

But, I would also be more judgemental. That alone makes cure not worth it.



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02 Nov 2015, 7:23 pm

If I didn't have my autistic-like issues I'd probably be quite extroverted and popular. I also probably wouldn't have dropped out of school and would have a job by now. I would probably have at least some experience with girls by now. Right now I can barely talk to girls.


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02 Nov 2015, 7:39 pm

Lots of NTs mess up at life...



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02 Nov 2015, 9:18 pm

I assume that I'd be really boring.


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02 Nov 2015, 10:06 pm

I'd probably be netflix and chilling right now with a stunning redhead. Redheads are sexy.



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02 Nov 2015, 11:38 pm

If I wasn't born autistic, I'd be a sheep.


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