More Aspie misery on weekends?

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Hi-- I was just noticing a pattern. I don't think I'm imagining it. It seems that there are more posts about having awful days, being miserable being an Aspie, and feeling lonely noticing couples in public, etc. when it's a weekend day. I wonder if weekends are harder for we Aspies. I know for myself, I have always hated Sundays. I think the reason is that there is almost no routine on weekends for a lot of people. For instance, I like to get my mail (I know that sounds silly, but I find it comforting). On Sundays, in addition to other routines not being there, there is no mail delivery. Also, a lot of my favorite stores or restaurants are closed on Sundays. Saturdays are hard too, but better. My daughters, who are living with me and are also adult Aspies, have a hard time on weekends because their dad is home in the morning, whereas during the week he goes to work early and they have a quiet house to wake up to (my husband is NT, gregarious, talkative and noisy!).
Does anyone else find weekends more difficult?
Amelia

For me it's actually the other way around. On the weekends I don't have to see my horrible colleagues and it's the time when I can recover from the Mon-Fri stress.

Oh, I can totally understand that! Yes, in that situation, weekends are much more bearable.

Perhaps some members have more time to post on the weekends.

I definitely find weekends difficult, not for lack of routine, but because the routines are different and it is hard for me to transition. As soon as I become comfortable with the altered routine, I have to transition again into the weekdays. I am often really exhausted on Mondays because of this.

I would love it if I had quiet on the weekends, but with my husband and son at home all day, it is hard to feel comfortable in the house because the noise and activity is much greater. Now that I work a full week, I feel as if I honestly get no time to collect my thoughts, especially as my co-workers are loud and busy and the copiers are running and phones are always ringing.

The best day I had last week was when I escaped to the bio lab after work and sat for an hour in near silence, reassembling fragments of a human skull...

haha, for some reason l read this as only aspie on weekends. but yeah i think weekends do have an absence of routine which could make things more difficiult. i dont actually have a problem with weekends, they are more a welcome realief to the week. but holidays are something i find difficult, more than 2 or 3 days of and i start feeling strange.

Weekends are just generally more depressing

I agree that holidays are the worst--but for me that is mainly because of family pressure to act like a "groupie." All these years and my mom still doesn't get that I don't enjoy the inevitable superficial chit-chat that large groups engender. She seems to think that I am really having fun but just won't admit it.

I'm on holidays right now, day 3 and I'm already having a hard time. My Dad, also an aspie, always found his holidays stressful, too. I have to have a project to take up my time or I just start feeling adrift and lost.

I always love weekends because I don't have to go to work. In my childhood, it was because of no school. I got to stay home and play with my toys and not worry about homework. I hated homework.

I actually like the weekends more than Mon - Fri. I don't have to work, I see my real life friends and the video game communities I'm in are far busier in the weekend.

I don't find weekend days to be negative at all, but I do have problems with the routine being all SNAFU'd on weekends (especially Sunday). I know what you mean about getting the mail. I "need" to do that too every day, even when I know there's nothing important coming. It's just that it's part of the day, and it needs to be done! Also I live near a railroad track, and part of my keeping time is that I hear certain train horns that are slightly different tones, and I know the sounds of the 6:15AM train, versus the 6:25 train, etc. I don't know if they run the same engine on the same train on purpose, or if it's a coincidence, but I rely on it for subliminal time keeping so as I don't run overtime fooling around on the internet, or miss weather report on TV at 7:05AM. On Sunday, the trains run all different, and there is no morning TV news on the channel I watch, so I have to come up with a whole different set of routines. I do the laundry on Sunday, so the washing machine and dryer finishing their cycles, replaces the train horns. I know it sounds goofy, but it works. It boils down to the fact that I have a Mon-Fri routine, and a Saturday routine, and a Sunday routine.


Charles

There is nothing to do on weekends. Not only I do not have friends to go out with, but I also dislike the things "normal people" like to do when going out (e.g.: I do not drink, I dislike loud music, I hate crowds etc). Working and going to university are pretty much the only things that I can do without giving up due to boredom.

Thanks everyone for all your replies to my post. I guess there is a lot of discomfort on weekends, as I thought. I had my usual Sunday depression today, but feel better now.
For all the people who prefer weekends because of it being time off from work, I totally get that.
Anyway, thanks for replying!
Amelia

I have to agree with this. I actually get excited for Mondays.

My next job may be a 24/7 operation so I can work some weekends.

I like weekends but the more I go out in public and see others out having fun with others it just makes me feel cheated and pathetic that I am alone.