Aspie brooding or sorting things out

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Since I am an “old newbie” having learned within the past year that I’m an aspie, I am still “sorting things out.” I would like to hear from other aspies if you tend to “brood” over things, or “sort it out” as I put it.

I’m not talking about holding a grudge, but rather it takes you a while to contemplate a situation and put it into a perspective that makes sense and affords you an answer. For instance, an individual may say or do something that does not register, but several days later you will figure it out and formulate a response. However, when the response is received, there is confusion because that moment has long passed.

Many, many times I have heard, “You brood over things . . .” I do not feel that I brood, but rather it takes me a while to figure out what had happened, why it had happened, and how I should respond. If they think it’s maddening, they should try it from my side.

So, I would like to hear from others that "sort things out" or brood and how it affects their day-to-day lives and relationships.

I brood all the time. Becoming fixated on things was one of the symptoms my psychologist used, among many other things, to diagnose me. Often times my fixation and brooding can leave me annoyed with those around me, but I can't process a lot of things unless I have thought about them quite a bit. I brood over big and little things and rarely make decisions without having thought about them first.

You hit the nail on the head!! ! I, too, have to "process things." It has caused me a great deal of difficulty my entire life, even with some so-called "friends." I cannot make them understand I have to process things. My entire life I could not make others understand that I do not see, understand, or process things (or life) the way they do. Thanks for sharing, because it added another piece to the puzzle!

I have a very similar problem and I tend to brood and obsess over events that happened a long time ago (sometimes a lot longer than weeks... one issue took nearly 7 years to work through :0/). Actually, my concern over this is what led to me seek therapy and ultimately learn about my AS diagnosis.

Last edited by NEtikiman on 23 Jun 2013, 8:03 am, edited 1 time in total.

I've screwed up several opportunities by taking too much time thinking things over. I've also had successes that in the long run have benefited from my dwelling (this often gets complimented as "great insight.") It's hard to know what to do sometimes. I find the best personal relationships allow for accepting the delay in communication due to processing. People who appreciate thinking are usually the ones who maintain relationships with me.

Unfortunatly, i tend to brood incessantly until the point i get rather upset, or start to feel ill.