Being mistreat by teachers in elementary school

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05 Jul 2010, 5:20 am

When I was in elementary school teachers treated me differently. During breaks I was followed around by a teacher even when I did nothing wrong. They also singled me out lots and once in grade 4 my teacher made fun of one of my obsessions in front of the whole class. Has anyone else had similar experiences?



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05 Jul 2010, 5:32 am

Yes. I have tons of terrible memories.


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05 Jul 2010, 8:08 am

I had a horrible time in elementary school as well as high school. I spent the whole time in the corner - not because I'd done something wrong but because I answered all the questions that the teacher asked. They called me disruptive. So I was ordered not to say anything - kind of ostracized.



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05 Jul 2010, 8:20 am

I was mistreated by a teacher's aid, who was in one of those classes, in Elementary School. She dragged me into the girl's washroom, and kept on ordering me, to go to the bathroom, even though I didn't have to go, just because of one incident. That happened five times, and than I told my mum, one day, that Mrs. Nestman (her name), kept on dragging me into the bathroom and making me go, when I don't have to go, at all. My mum phoned the school, and that was the end of that.

I've turned the tables on that woman, and started giving her a hard time, three months, later. :twisted:


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05 Jul 2010, 8:33 am

Claradoon wrote:
I had a horrible time in elementary school as well as high school. I spent the whole time in the corner - not because I'd done something wrong but because I answered all the questions that the teacher asked. They called me disruptive. So I was ordered not to say anything - kind of ostracized.


Same thing for me mixed in with me talking to loud when someone asked a question, also got me sent to isolated space.



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05 Jul 2010, 9:08 am

me too, and it will probably continue later in your education. the thing is, not everyone enters the teaching profession for the right reason. and for teachers who want to bully or abuse, aspergers is like a giant 'abuse me' sign.



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05 Jul 2010, 9:21 am

yes all the time. the principle was the worst she use to blame kids making fun of me because of my height. but she didn't understand they was normally laughing at my speech delay. my hand movements and my anti social behavior, and the fact that two teacher said to make my mother feel good. " Monique don't seem that mentally ret*d." thanks for saying it in front of other kids.
( lol I guess it was my fault for not acting like people would expect a seven year old with M.R to act like. instead of. not never needing help with my work find my own way of learning. knowing how to read 3rd grade chapter books, do times table excused me for not being stupid.) ok so any ways after that every thing went down hill, kids did not want to even touch me, teacher blame it on me.
they said that i must like kids making fun of me because i do weird things, then they mocked me. what is this ( walk on tip toes in on spot in the corner, take their finger in repeat what i normally would do.) they said i never talk to anyone, and they really thought it was weird when i was in the 5th grade i would go in play in the kindergarten area, they had a new gym set that year. and when i ever did was invited to play with some one the teachers use to mainly say Monique not like that, guess what ran of the new play mate. ( i guess the teachers was more like school aides for all the students.) at the time i didn't know my symptom could of been autism tendencies) happy to get this off my chest. :wink:



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05 Jul 2010, 7:13 pm

Some of you might be interested in the video I made on ars*hole teachers. I have been bullied by teachers and have never, ever gotten over it.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4bMCeCry728[/youtube]



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05 Jul 2010, 7:26 pm

I spent a lot of time in the corner too but, I cann't entirely blame my teachers. I seem to have this compulsion to try and undermine/test authority in passively aggressive ways. Either that or I could have just been trying to get put in the corner to get more social time with the wall :lol:



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06 Jul 2010, 5:12 am

I know all about being picked on by teachers. The truth is they couldn't stand me. "They" being female teachers mostly. Looking back male teachers didn't really take notice of my quiet and reclusive behaviour. It was usually just a remark or two, but the female teachers took it to a new level.
Firstly I could tell that me being so quiet made them feel uneasy. Secondly they adored the kids that spoke up and showed good confidence. I got insulted on many an occasion for just not being popular. I had certain fears which my mom explained to the teachers. There was one in particular who always had a dig at me for having those fears. Far from feeling sympathy for me, she felt I was being a nuisance.
Another teacher always made remarks in my direction "it's the quiet ones you have to look out for...". Another one always asked me if I was "sick" because I was so quiet and there was one who always made it seem as if I was a disruptive child. Even though I was quieter than a mouse. I would get shouted at more than people who swore in class. Why? Just because I had a blank stare and daydreamed a lot. This teacher kinda took it personally. Which to this day I still don't understand why.



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06 Jul 2010, 5:17 am

I was picked on some teachers here and there. They misconstrued me to either be not listening or a trouble maker. I had a lot of trouble with my homework and would often sit in the back of class away from everyone. What's worse is the kids in my school who acted like as*holes. Normally I tried hiding myself so I wouldn't be picked on.

What's ironic is if the teachers didn't pick on me, I was their favorite like a pet. I had teachers that wanted me to volunteer with being their assistant or helping other kids which I was crap at. It was as if I was either a wretch or an angel when it came to teachers.


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06 Jul 2010, 5:35 am

Some teachers would make me do stuff which they knoew would make me feel uncomfortable, like handing out notices or bought lunch to all the classrooms, I hated knocking at doors and getting 30 faces staring at me...



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06 Jul 2010, 6:13 am

Loved the video great job!! ! I would get into trouble and had to write I will not do X (x amount of times) Once since I was done my teacher took away my lunch and told me I could eat later (it just so happens I chose to skip breakfast that morning) so it was not until 2pm that I ate something. Mom was FURIOUS! She called the school and straightened it out. Once a bully was chasing me I said stop and he wouldn't then mom came up and dealt with it LOL! Another time I was in trouble (they moved my table away and no Friday Party day for me) Mom picked me up we went to the pawn ship and I got a Gameboy! LOL! Another time it was awful I got the teacher a gift her response "Don't think this will get you out of trouble" I was shocked. Later in life I gave my psychology teacher a gift her reaction was priceless a 32 old woman excited like a toddler even younger so excited for a #1 teacher keychain (but I was super psyched for her to open it so maybe that was why) Man she was awesome!! !



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06 Jul 2010, 7:13 am

When I ws in 5th grade it was back when it was still considered ok for teachers to paddle students (at a christian school). My 5th grade teacher had a paddle that was basicly a cricket bat with padding on one side. Whenever a student had a birthday celebration you had to take the paddle a number of times coresponding with your age. You got to choose wich side of the paddle and, most people took it on the padded side. I decided to take it on the unpadded side. My teacher got 5 strokes in before he decide it was probably better to do the rest padded. Now that I think about it, it's pretty amazing things like that went on in schools back then. Kids these days have it so easy.



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06 Jul 2010, 1:32 pm

Kids in my school used to bully me (mentally, because I was too strong to physical) and teachers allowed them. My class teacher loved to make courts and she mistreated me in the front of all class. I hadn't a label ret*d, because I was the best student. I had a label hardcore mentally sick and acoustic child.

Teachers didn't like me and call me rude, mean and feelingsless. They wrote me many comments like Valoy said that..., Valoy offended someone, Valoy is unsociable, Valoy beat someone up. If someone beat me, it was ok, but if I did the same, I was punished.

I wasn't a kid looking for fight. I was spending time alone. But other kids still wanted something from me (because I wasn't normal), so I had to defend. Teachers found me a problem and they gave me ADHD dx, although I was very calm kid.

My school years were horrible years with many suicide thoughts included.


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06 Jul 2010, 2:13 pm

Wuffles wrote:
me too, and it will probably continue later in your education. the thing is, not everyone enters the teaching profession for the right reason. and for teachers who want to bully or abuse, aspergers is like a giant 'abuse me' sign.


I'm working as a substitute teacher. During our orientation for new teachers the man who is now the Superintendant of our school district did a talk about classroom management and at one point said "When it comes to classroom management there are two kinds of teachers. There are teachers who manage their classroom so they can teach, and there are teachers who teach so they can manage their classroom."

I've seen the same thing in nursing and other professions that deal with vulnerable people. Many people who get into these kinds of jobs do it because they care deeply for other people and truly want to help, but there are always some who get in because they are bullies. Because of some deficiency in themselves they are compelled to pick on and control other people.

My Little Guy's third grade teacher was this way. She picked on all the kids she felt were different, including all the children identified as gifted. When problems were brought up she just made it worse by punishing the class and naming my son, or others in the same situation on different occasions, as the reason for the loss of priveledges. My son came home crying from her class every day and every attempt to help only made things worse. By the end of the school year children were throwing rocks at my son on a regular basis and calling him "weirdo" and other names. She did it all through passive aggression with a big smile on her face.