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nicole_nico
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17 Jun 2013, 5:32 am

hi... i'm 24 years old. i have 3 years old daughter, with autism. we live in Georgia and here is no good conditions for autistic childrens and their parents. i'm single parent and i have many problems here... how i can come to USA with my baby? i have bachelor's degree in LAW, but i can work absolutely everywhere for my baby's guaranteeing... she needs more therapeutics and diets. please if you have any informations tell me.. thanks to everyone.



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17 Jun 2013, 9:54 am

Why not a country that is in the Council of Europe?

I don't know how the migration treaties there work, but I suspect that being members of the same supra-national body it would be easier than going to the US. Also, from what I've heard (not living in the US) medical specialists and educational aides there are crazy expensive and you pay out of pocket for them there.

Furthermore, autism is a very broad term. Is she talking?



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17 Jun 2013, 10:32 am

nicole_nico wrote:
hi... i'm 24 years old. i have 3 years old daughter, with autism. we live in Georgia and here is no good conditions for autistic childrens and their parents. i'm single parent and i have many problems here... how i can come to USA with my baby? i have bachelor's degree in LAW, but i can work absolutely everywhere for my baby's guaranteeing... she needs more therapeutics and diets. please if you have any informations tell me.. thanks to everyone.


Nicole, as an American I would strongly advise you to stay just where you are. I understand you are only trying to better your child's life, but coming here would not do that for several reasons:

First, a bachelor's degree in law would get you nothing here. The most such a degree could do would be to make you a candidate for law school. But since our respective legal systems are so different, you would almost certainly have to start over whereas in your country your degree is worth something. The alternative would be a minimum wage-type job that would keep you in poverty unless and until you could start over academically.

Second, there aren't enough jobs to go around for Americans. Real unemployment, depending upon with statistics we accept, is around twenty percent--or one in five. This makes the job market very competitive even for those poverty level jobs.

In Georgia you are in a country that is your home--a country where your friends and family live. Here you would lose all that and be in poverty to boot. Coming to America isn't what it used to be. So, I would strongly recommend you stay put, do some research on your daughter's issues, and make the best of life in the country that is your home.


Good luck.



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17 Jun 2013, 11:00 am

Also, keep in mind that the therapies that have been proven most effective with autistic kids involve little or no cost and can be done by a parent who has self-trained in providing the therapy in question. The two therapies I know of that have been researched and found effective are ABA and DIR.

Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) is essentially the same as training a dog. Basically, you figure out something the kid likes that can be used as a reward, such as time with a favorite toy. Then, you take the skill you want to teach and break it down into component pieces. For example, if you want your child to put on a shirt, the pieces might be a) picking up the shirt, b) sliding your head through the neck hole, and c) putting your arms through the sleeves. Or if you want the kid to say 'mama', the pieces might be a) saying 'mmm', b) saying 'ma' and c) saying 'mama'.

Now, in the shirt example, the responses can be prompted. Ask your daughter to pick up the shirt, and if she doesn't do it on her own, gently guide her hand and make her grab it. Then you reward her. After she's learnt to do this without prompting, start getting her to put her head in. (By the way, use simple words for your commands, and word it the same way each time. It's easier for the kid to learn.) Once she can get her head through the neck hole, then work on getting her arms through the sleeves. And so forth.

If the action can't be prompted, as with speech, then pay attention to the sounds she's already making, and pick the one closest to what you want (eg 'mama'). Start rewarding her for that sound, while repeating 'mama' to her. Once she does that sound consistently, start only rewarding her when she's relatively closer to the sound you want. Keep raising the bar slowly until she's saying 'mama'. Then work on her saying it while pointing to you, or to a picture of you.

DIR stands for Developmental, Individual difference, Relationship based therapy. It's also called Floortime. This hasn't been studied as much as ABA, but what research is out there suggests it's also effective.

I don't know as much about DIR as I do about ABA, because I've actually done ABA with kids, but I do know it's about following the child's lead and joining them in their activities. So, for example, if the child is humming and running in circles, start humming with her and try to harmonize your voice to her. Everything the child does, you do something similar in response. This will tend to attract the child's interest in you and make them more sociable towards you. Then, once they've learnt that playing with someone else can be fun, start adding little variations in the game to encourage them to try new things.

In general, the research I've seen suggests ABA is better at teaching practical skills, while DIR is better for social interaction and communication. Which suggests that combining them could be good. It's pretty much impossible to do ABA and DIR simultaneously, so you'd have to set aside different times of day for them, such as ABA in the morning and DIR in the afternoon, or ABA when you need her to do practical activities such as getting dressed and DIR when you have free time to play with her.



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17 Jun 2013, 12:01 pm

nopenope wrote:
Why not a country that is in the Council of Europe?

I don't know how the migration treaties there work, but I suspect that being members of the same supra-national body it would be easier than going to the US. Also, from what I've heard (not living in the US) medical specialists and educational aides there are crazy expensive and you pay out of pocket for them there.


It's true, just an uninsured hospital ride can be up to $1,800 (or 1349.33 Euros) out of pocket.

Medical care is much better in the rest of Europe too, from what I've heard. Maybe a country like the UK could work, or possibly one of the germanic countries like Germany or Austria.


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