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I'm starting to think more and more about if I have some kind of issue with alcohol. Where I live, there are aspie groups every saturday. And after the groups, it's always out to the bars. Me and a few local aspies also go out fridays as well. I love being with my aspie friends and I love drinking but.... I don't know, somehow it's starting to take longer and longer time to get back on track after the weekends. It's tuesday now and I'm still a bit exhausted after the weekend. I'm studying at the university full time and attempt to watch my weigh and go to the gym regularely, so the days when I'm too exhausted/hungover/sleep deprived to do anything takes away work and gym time. We also tend to go and eat something greasy and fatty when we're out, which destroys my weigh loss plan. And then there's the money thing. I live on benefits and sometimes can't buy things I need because the money has gone to alcohol. I'm biologically female, but I want to be treated like a guy, so I of course drink as much as the other guys. Ideas? What's your relationship to alcohol?

After 20 years of regular drinking, I quit last year for good. I was also noticing longer recovery times, plus I was feeling generally worn down. I didn't like the things that I think I was capable of doing under the influence either. AS for me only came to light the past January, and I have now come to realize that my drinking was definitely a social crutch.

I don't plan on ever going back to drinking alcohol. At first, it was hard, but like everything else the difficulty eased over time. A book that I recommend is the "easy way to quit drinking." It describes drinking in a way that made me never look at it the same way again.

Good luck to you in whatever choice you make.

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I have no relationship with alcohol. Everyone else seems to think alcohol is great, but it doesn't bother me if I live without it or not. I have emetophobia anyway so I don't like drinking too much then making myself ill, and also I'm afraid of getting drunk because I'd be afraid to lose my self-control/loosen my tongue. One or two mildly alcoholic drinks are OK but I don't have it that often.

I was an active alcoholic from aprox ages 25-25 and 55-65. It didm' t make me feel much more comfortable around people, but I didn't worry about isolating! My mood swings and general health and thinking process got so bad, till I finally quit this second time. Both times I've used AA but it's hard, because you're supposed to talk to strangers and do things in a logical, sequential order!! But I plug along with it. Lots of people quit without AA. A good guideline I've heard is that if you're drinking WHEN YOU DON'T WANT TO, then you have a problem. Like at one point I was drinking early in the morning before I went to work at a health food store! It's a powerful addiction, so if you're not yet physically addicted and you are able to moderate it from here on out, then you can still enjoy drinking occassionally, so this would be a good time to control it. When you can't control it, that's when you know you can't drink at all. I used to say I'd have two drinks on Friday night and that was all for the week, but on Monday morning, I'd still be completely drunk on my way to work. Good luck to you.

I sort of have a love hate relationship with alcohol and mostly only have a few cans of tennents over Christmas but usually throughout the rest of the year not drink. Sometimes I had the occasional pint of stella but nothing else. My dad was an alcoholic who beat my mum when pissed and also beat up me and my sister on a reguar basis from as far as I remember 1974-79 so it is not a favoured drug by a long shot. Ok in 1993 I used to have the occasional bottle of Thunderbird but I was in my late 20s then but I can take it or leave it but presently I choose to leave it.

I don't drink alcohol. I don't like the taste, and the benefits of forcing it down my throat pale in comparison to the disadvantages.

This isn't as much of an issue related to alcohol as it is an issue related to your identity and what your goals are, and it seems like you have goals that conflict with each other. You want to be sociable, be one of the guys, etc., but at the same time you want to lose weight and have money. Realize what your priority goals are and follow them. Everything should fall into place afterwards. You don't have to drink as much as the guys; I cut it off at two beers personally unless it's a place where they have all you can drink specials. You also don't have to eat greasy food. Either eat something more healthy when you go out or start hanging out with people who will be more in alignment with your goals instead.

I drink for taste. I like imported or crafted beer, a martini, or a nice red wine. I'll only have a couple drinks and I'm done. A little buzz feeling is nice, intoxicated is not. I don't like the feeling of being drunk so it's rarely happened. I often wonder if I don't experience it the same way as others because I can't see the appeal.

well its not the best suggestion but you can brew your own alcohol for pretty cheap and it will taste a hell of a lot better than most macro brews. I helped my brother in law once with brewing his beer it was pretty easy and the stuff he made tasted great

Hello! It's about 7:30am here Wed and I'm drinking wine. Not that I love alcohol. I drink wine because it tastes good with cheese and salami.

I think you probably need to consciously try to reduce alcohol and junk food consumption. I understand that when you are with other people, it's easy to be influenced by them, but I don't think others would mind it if you have your way in bars etc. So, when you go to bars, maybe you can drink coffee/grapefruit juice etc instead of alcohol and you can always choose something healthier to eat even in bars etc. You don't need to drink alcohol to be a typical guy. I know many men who don't drink alcohol at all.

I have astronomically high cholesterol levels, fatty liver and a high iron level (blood) which is almost certainly from liver damage. Lets say I am a great example of what happens if you just drink as much as you want whenever you want and cultivate a rebel persona so as to look cool when you actually aren't. I am not naturally 'cool' but drink makes me feel 'cool'; at least thats what I told myself from about 19yrs of age. I have been fighting to accept my natural self (and thereby to wean myself off alcohol) for about 20 years but I still don't feel quite right in any sort of social context without consuming fairly extensive amounts of alcohol.

I am not an alcoholic in the sense that I have to drink daily or drink just to stop shaking as some need to do. At least I can now socialise without being completely sozzled as I had to in my 20s and early 30s. I suppose the gradual learning of sensible drinking habits is common to all people, not just aspies, but I do think aspies are that much more prone to problem drinking.

My greatest fear is that I have some sort of negative life event that throws me right off balance and I drop into into a sea of alcohol. I am presently trying to put in place other mechanisms to handle life's shocks so I don't go off the cliffs of sobriety into the alcoholic depths.

Good question.

Following years of over consumption, first as a response to social anxiety which became a habit. I consciously chose to reduce my drinking and also became less social combined with not seeing certain people who also tended towards excess.

I'm not currently living where I would like to, I hope to move within the next year or so. Hopefully I will be more social and not revert to old habits if that happens.