Beyond my frustration capabiilty

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I trying my best not to tic right now, but I'll manage.

My dad works at government offices and is part of a board of directors for our state. He said to me "Want to come over and do a tech internship?" It sounded great so I agreed. He called some of his coworkers from IT and he said he would be ready by today. Over the past few days, he lectured me that I need to mind 2 words: "polite" and "professional". I could manage "polite," just not "professional". He yelled at me and said that I was lucky (true) and I can't be abnormal in his office (i.e. ticking, stimming, etc)

Before we go, he makes me put on a collared shirt, even though chinos and a plain t-shirt would suffice. I took it off after he dropped me off. Then he gave me a lecture I need to greet everyone. (handshaking ) I realized that after lunch I needed to tic really badly. My arms started twitching and my eyes started twitching twice that much. I manged to suppress the worst of my vocal tics (me blurting a random word out every 5 minutes.)

I tried to play a LoL game to relax, but for those who know people in the game, the support hogged the kills and a guy left the game, only to come back 19 minutes through claiming he had a power failure.

I'm pretty much beaten. I don't want to go through another day like this.

people dont need jobs for their parents, they need jobs for themselves,so if the job is a problem on health in any form,dont accept having that job over being able to function normaly,a poorly functioning person is not going to do well in a job which will affect their own self esteem,confidence and mental health, the fellow workers plus bosses will have a wrongly distorted view of such a person.
instead when are old enough,aim for the job that is far more tailored to the sort of strengths and less to the weaknesses have got.

it sounds like he is concentrating far to much on his own image and is also egocentric which shows over his reaction over having offered the job-otherwise he woud not have mentioned hiding tics that have got no control over; and stims which release pressure for people on the spectrum,by putting all that pressure ontop to impossibly change into a neurotypical he is only making it worse.
it sounds like he feels he has done an incredible favour by giving the job but assuming are diagnosed and he has been spoken to by specialists and read up on stuff he really shoud have known it was the wrong environment at this stage.

dont go through with it,yes its easier said than done,but which one really is worse on long term health? having him feeling peed off for a limited amount of time or being forced to stay in a job which is currently full of to many barriers to cope with?
perhaps type him a letter about exactly how it feels in the environment and the things that are barriers,explain how the asd/and any other conditions affect life exactly if he still doesnt have a clue.

Your dad is way to concerned about people's perception of him and seems to foisting that concern on to you and how you will reflect on him. He is wrong about doing that.

I advice that you talk to your immediate supervisor for the internship and ask if you can stim or release your tics while you work so long as it does not interfere with getting the job done. Keeping polite and respectful speech while asking and you should be fine. If your immediate boss is ok with it, it should not matter how your dad perceives it.

Does your dad understand how stimming helps people with AS and is important for you to do?