My sister and I have been arguing a lot recently, because I try to instill skills in her that I know will be useful for her future (she's fifteen) and she keeps interrupting, complaining, saying she doesn't want to hear about it, and when I ask her why, she never gives me a good reason, just says she wants to stop talking about it. She'll do this with any other conversation she deems "boring" as well, like when I try to explain a literary point in a book she's reading, or when I try to understand why she or somebody else did something social that made no sense to me. She never used to do it, she used to be a lot more patient, but it really irritates and frustrates me that she just blows me off and refuses to listen to anything I have to say all the way through because it's "boring". I'm usually only trying to be helpful. She says she does it because I "go on about it forever" which may or may not be true, it's hard to tell. She tells me not to go into so much detail, but I don't know what parts I should keep and what to leave out. I've tried shutting up when she tells me, but then I feel even worse because I have all this really important stuff to tell her, but she doesn't want to hear it. My mom will sometimes do it to me too; she'll put it a little more nicely than my sister does, but I eventually wear out her patience, and never get to finish what I was saying. How do I get the pertinent points of what I'm trying to say across, how do I distinguish between what's "important" and what isn't? And how come NT's think it's okay to talk to us like this? I bet if we said to them, "You've been talking about this forever, I'm bored and I'm going to stop listening" they'd shame us for having poor social skills.
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Diagnosed with ASD level 1 on the 10th of April, 2014
Rediagnosed with ASD level 2 on the 4th of May, 2019
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28 Jun 2013, 12:12 am
