give a history of your experience in school

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long or brief

mine:

2 years of preschool: could not talk, was yelled at for not understanding the teachers
Kindergarten: quiet, obsessive, still had trouble understanding the teachers
1: 1 friend, academically way ahead of the other kids continuing till grade 5
2: a few friends, sort of accepted
3: a few friends, sort of accepted
4: more friends, accepted more
5: suddenly ostracized
6: ostracized more, grades drop
7: viciously bullied
8: viciously bullied
9: transfer to private school-- not well liked but not bullied
10-12: transfer to another private school-- a few friends, not bullied, but still an outcast

college: isolated, couldn't socialize, got good grades despite struggling emotionally
grad school: totally isolated, dropped out, never finished

i was pretty much bullied from gradeschool untill i left in highschool with jr high and my freshman and second year of highschool being the worst. i never ate lunch in 6 th or 7th grade because the bullying was so bad. id just find a place to hide in the school or walk around the school with a fake hallpass or something waiting for the lunch hour to get over with

2 years of preschool:
Kindergarten: quiet, obsessive, a few friends
1: a couple friends, academically way ahead of the other kids continuing till grade 6(If you consider all academic classes)
2: 1 friend, sort of accepted
3: no friends I recall, bullied
4: 1 friend, bullied
5: suddenly ostracized
6: ostracized more, grades drop
7: bullied
8: bullied
9: 3 friends, bullied
10: 3 friends, bullied
11: bullied
12: 3 friends, bullied

college: isolated, couldn't socialize, got good grades in my interests subjects

BTW I was in private schools for preschool,kindergarten, 1,2,4,and 11.

K: was very popular, had lots of friends, no enemies, great teacher
1: was very popular, had lots of friends, 2 enemies, great teacher
2: was very popular, had lots of friends, 1 enemy, bad teacher
3: was not so popular, had quite a few friends, a few enemies, decent teacher
4: wasn't very popular, had quite a few friends, lots of enemies, good teacher
5: wasn't very popular, had some friends, lots of enemies, bad teacher
6: wasn't popular, had some friends, tons of enemies
7: wasn't popular, had lots of friends, tons of enemies
8: wasn't popular, had some friends, tons of enemies (also homeschooled)
9: wasn't very popular, had lots of friends, tons of enemies
10: wasn't popular at all, no friends, tons of enemies (also homeschooled)
11: (homeschooled)
12: (current) very popular, lots of friends, three enemies

I was bullied in school... until I hit puberty and wound up being larger than those who were tormenting me. I remember in grade 8 I sent another kid (one who had been persistently bullying me for a few years) to the Emergency Room. The bullies started leaving me alone after that...

By my last year of high school, though, things weren't too bad. But then I went to a very geeky high school to begin with.

I was bullied throughout my school years from what I can recall, tho I believe that prior to 8 or so, I was the one who was a problem in that I didnt like other children coming and sharing the playhouse and I would hit children... I am fairly sure I had to leave one school when I was around 6 or 7. I rarely had more than a couple of friends, and even those were often tenouous. They often chose to keep themselves safe and would befriend the bullies instead. I was pretty much a loner after age 11. I gave up trying mostly... I mixed better with either those older than me or those younger than me generally, but not the same age group. I apparently tried to buy friendship too and I do remember this. My father would bring back things from his work abroad and I would give them to others, including the bullies and then not understand when they gave nothing back or carried on hurting me.

I remember one xmas, I gave my once best friend a lovely xmas gift, and she gave me a box full of rubbish basically...bits of paper...things that were clearly picked up around the place. Needless to say, I didnt give presents again after that. That hurt a lot.

Edit-I had terrible trouble at one school I went to, the only one that was not private. The headmaster took a disliking to me, I was always in trouble and he told my parents I was below average intelligence. They took me to a child psychologist who IQ tested me and found I was genius range, so quite the opposite. Apparently a teacher at that school also shouted in my ear at one point, 'I DON'T LIKE YOU!'. I was only about 8 or 9. My mother was disgusted.

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Preschool: Everything was easy. Was labeled super genius. Could already read prolifically, do multiplication.
Kindergarten: Best fun I ever had. Had an awesome teacher.
1st grade: First time introduced to the evil of homework. That awesome kindergarten teacher was killed by a drunk driver, very traumatic.
2nd grade: Made 3 friends. Behavioral issues started to surface. Bullying started.
3rd grade: Similar to 2nd. Still had 3 friends got bullied worse.
4th grade: Still had same 3 friends, bullying became very bad.
5th grade: Moved to evil special ed school. Lost contact with those 3 friends. Worst year I ever had. Had my worst teacher ever, set school record for most detentions in a single year. Had a nasty incident where I was framed by that teacher, almost expelled. Got into many fist fights.
6th grade: Reset my previous detention record, became popular for being so oppositional to the teachers. Still got into fights, I was small but fiery. Was expelled at the end of the year.
7th grade: Sent to military school. Kicked out in under a week (long story). Homeschool started. Parents were mean to me, told me they were disappointed.
8th/9th grade: Homeschooled. Had many fights with my parents. Grew 14 inches to 6' 2".
10th grade: Tried to give school a second chance. Made no friends. Got okay grades. Started working out and joined basketball team, grew to 6' 5" which was good for basketball. Not bullied.
11th grade: 1 semi friend. Grades became very good. Not bullied.
12th grade: 1 semi friend, several good acquaintances. Good grades. Salutatorian. Got scholarship to go to college. College hasn't been very good though so far.

Oh, I forgot to mention preschool! Pre-school was very awesome. Everyone in class wanted to be my friend, I was the smartest one there, I came up with the best games, and I got the most best behaved of the week awards. My teacher just loved me and said I was a tremendously outstanding student. But she ended up having cancer and she got replaced by a mean sub whom didn't like me. I never heard from my teacher, Miss Taylor, again. Mom and I are thinking she must've died.

Preschool: Had several friends
Kindergarten: Had several friends
1st grade: Had some friends
2nd grade: some friends
3rd grade: few friends, bullying starts, continued through the 7th grade. I moved that summer after the 7th grade.
8th grade: New middle school, made friends in the band/orchestra, no bullying
9-12: Had friends in the band/orchestra as well as the debate team, no bullying
College: Had more friends, no bullying. One of the bullies from elementary school actually apologized for his behavior.

Year 1-2. Had several friends, though sometimes they made fun of me for being so weird. I had a horrible principal, amd most of my teachers weren't much better!
From the rest of year 2 to the end of year 6 I was in the special class.
Year 3-4. Made a lot of friends, but I got into a lot of trouble because I was bad tempered and rude.
4-5. I had a lot of conflicts, mostly with my teachers but also with the other kids, inside and outside of my class. I started to bully a kid in my class (which I regret now.)
6. I slowly started to become more mature. I was made to spend more and more time in a mainstream class (which I hated), I made a few NT friends. I eventually became friends with the kid I bullied.
7. This was a very difficult year for me. I wasn't bullied but I had a hard time adjusting to the mainstream class and I often threw temper tantrums. At the end of the year I became very depressed because I was worried about the next year and no-one cared how I felt.
8-10. This was a vey hard time for me. One girl started to pick on me constantly for no reason. I had to repeat year 8. At the start of that year I found out that a very friendly, very well liked little girl died. Everyone was nice to me for most of the year but then everyone started picking on me and most of my friends ditched me. It pretty much all went downhill until I left partway through year 10.
Right now I'm doing open access (school over the phone) and I have made 1 friend from there through myspace.

To be totally honest, I don't know how to sum up grades 1 - 7 (they were a little all over the place, never exactly popular though).

8 - A small group of friends none really my age.
9 - A small group of friends a couple my age.
10 - See 9.
11 - Small group of friends my age.
12 - See 11.

Throughout high school I was more respected ( exclude grade 8 ).

University (current) - Know a fair few people, but academically focussed.

Pre-school: I remember a scene (from my first day maybe) where all the kids were rolling snakes out of clay. I remember thinking that it seemed pretty lame.

1st grade: I spent in Venezuala. First day in a public school, kids were an absolute riot - throwing stuff in class. It was awful. Ended up going to a Dutch school, and made a few friends. Got in a fight with one of them, and he knocked a loose tooth out of my mouth.

2nd grade: Back in US public school. Had a teacher who insisted the Sun was not a star. She took a couple of my matchbox cars away. I hope she died painfully.

3rd and 4th grade: a couple of good teachers. Got punched in the gut and had my glasses broken for the first time. Played my first semi-wargames (Risk & Skirmish). Ripped a kids mouth open when he called me a name; he went to the nurse, I went to the principle's office (a first) - I was crying so much that they didn't punish me.

5th grade: moved again. Made a couple of friends. Had lost touch with all of my friends just before moving - even though they were close enough to visit. A pattern begins.

6th - 7th grade: Life gets worse. I begin doing less well in school. More and more of my time is spent playing games (alone), reading, and abusing myself. Still teased constantly, one day I put a kid through a wall (using a desk). Didn't really get in trouble for it. Still avoided ever getting detention. Talented and Gifted program started at my school; I'm inducted,and find that it is just another class to avoid doing stuff for.

8th grade: More of the same really. Started getting into Role-playing games (solitare or with parents - maybe one friend).

High School: Started out mixed. I was sought out to run an RPG for a group which had a couple of my semi-friends. Ended up with a decent group of gaming buddies (a first). BUT, my school work declined even more. So low as to actually start failing classes. Was swapped in and out of various honors classes. Part way through, all my friends moved away. Became a lot more social with a broader range of peers. Began working with autistic children - saw that they seemed so much more alive than the average student. Barely made it through (PE requirement almost got me).

College, Act I: Met some great guys. Still blew off classwork, gaming a lot. These were my first real friends. Took 5 years to almost complete a degree, slowly shifting from computer science, through history, and into philosophy. Took first acting class. Fell in love, lived together for a year - tried a LDR - ended up breaking up (can't keep 'em if I'm not around constantly). Left school one class short of degree.

Wandering: Went home to work on my folk's barn/house. Realized how lonely I was, and went back to Buffalo where I still had friends, at least. Fell in love again - a horrible, twisted, abusive relationship with someone I never liked, but love all the same. Eventually met the girl (she was so young then) who would be my wife.

College Act II: went back for a couple of acting classes (did well). Started acting semi-pro. Muchly in love (though there were a few storms early on). My love started interfering with some of the time that I spent with my friends (though I fought hard for this to not be the case), causing some drift. Had a lot of fun though.

Married life & College Act III: Pretty much worked when I wanted to. My wife (damned if I know when we actually got married) was willing to support me. Continued playing games, sometimes with friends. Again, I very good part of my life. Started working on book - got contract. Finished up last class for degree, so that I could graduate before my wife - got a paper published for my final project. Eventually lost all contact with my friends (mainly disagreements over the type of games we should play).

College Act IV: Wife kicked me out. Ran and hid back with my folks - didn't see any other options. My dad convinced me to get a degree that was useful. Seemed easier then the alternative of living a real life. Impressed the hell out of everyone (myself included) with my ability to work hard at school. Got out with a 3.96 GPA.

Grad School: Couldn't find a job, so I went to Oregon for school. Still here, showing all my bad traits again. No idea where this is going to end. No friends, no love, but I have my dancing.

K-3 no friends, ostracized, bullied
4-6 in a classroom that had 4-5-6 graders, all in the same classroom, fourth in a class where the original teacher who could keep the bullying in ccheck left after twoweeks, got a new incompotent teacher, life went to hell, fifth and sixth were not much better teacher did not like me either

now, think about that, being a fourth grader and constantly being bullied by the sixth graders in your class

7-8 bullied, ostracized, socially akward misunderstanding of social rituals, teachers start ridiculing me openly

9-11, practically lived in the theatre, when I had to leave was ridiculed, ostracized and had poor grades due to disinterest, did three worksheets in biology for all of freshman year, got a's on all of them, just didn't care

12, dropped out of traditional high school transferred over to twice a week classes at other high school in area, night classes, only five people ever showed up, teacher not an idiot, hung out with the 60 year old guy who was getting his GED

college act 1, fencing class, got an A

college act two, failed six credits from epilepsy induced attendance <I couldn't get to class because I had no drivers liscense>

college act three - failed all 18 credits because I got depressed and just ceased to give a damn

now here I am

Elementary school was great, middle school was terrible and high school was great also.

Kindergarten: Knew enough to be taken at 4 years old, rather than 5, but language barrier caused difficulties with other students. (I started school speaking mostly German).

Elementary:

Learned English, academically strong. Scored at fifth grade level in first grade, high school level in sixth. Socially, I had some friends, but there were also some notorious bullies.

Junior high:

Bullied badly by several big bullies. Was greatly overmatched and couldn't fight back. Acadmically strong, had some friends.

High school:

Probably one of the best times of my life. I switched to a private school environment where academics and hard work were emphasized. I did well in school and got an award at graduation for outstanding performance in English. After one notorious bully who followed me from another school was expelled, things got a lot better for me.

College:

Usually did my own thing. Made it my objective to study, rather than party, which probably branded me as weird.

The political correctness began to get me down. I was glad when I got my Master's in 1991 and was finished with school. However, I still continue to learn on my own.

Business college (2002-2003):

Did well in my courses. I was not part of a population typically served by the college, as I was in my late 30s and already had a degree. However, the experience was generally positive. The classes were interesting.

kindergarten - used to make big structors w/ lego blocks and the teacher always took pictures of them.
grade 1 - got in trouble for saying the "f word" when i didn't even know what this word was?
grade 2 - they thought i had hearing problems and i had to goto all these tests. one test was "press this button when u hear a beep" and the beeps kept getting quieter, but sometimes the sound wasn't a beep, so i didn't press it, so they though i couldn't hear certain frequencies.
grade 3 - did not understand the explanations in math class, but could do the word problems like they where nothing.
grade 4 - was put in a really sped class due to my lack of language skills, where there was not enough math to show i wasn't ret*d.
grade 5 - same.
grade 6 - went back to a normal class, but in math saw weird signs i didn't even know what they where.
grade 7 - noticed fractions meant dividing, and then became a pro at math and algebra.
grade 8 - got "leader in math" and "leader in tech" from my school. but failed the grade due to my lack of language skills.
grade 8 (version 2) - did those grade 1 writing exorsizes every day, and had to memorize huge lists of words.
grade 9 - became a pot head. was told i would fail and that i wasn't taking it serisly enough and didn't understand how big a deal this is.
grade 10 - first year i got to pick my classes. i did so well in math and physics, that they let me take all the higher level grade 11 sciences and ib math 11 methods
grade 11 - took grade 12 sciences and ib math 12 methods.
grade 12 first semester - took speshal higher level math class with 5 students in the province, equilivent of 2 years of university calculus plus more maths subjects.
grade 12 second semester - i am currently sitting at home not going to school. i have all credits to graduate at the end of this year already.