Getting used to socialising

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I'm starting back college in September. I dropped out of school last December and haven't really spent much time socialising from then up until now.
My twin sister has a few friends, I went out with her to meet them once but I didn't feel like I connected to any of them. I don't really know how to start a conversation with someone I've never met. My sister has a friend who also has aspergers also, I really want to meet him. He lives a few miles away from us, but it seems like we will get along, do you think I should meet him?
Should I tell my sister to casually mention me to him, and say I have aspergers too and maybe we would be good friends?? I don't really knw what to do.
And how do i prepare myself for college and meeting all these new people? My anxiety is huge.

Everything in life comes down to practice. The more you do and think about something, the more comfortable and better at it you will become. Also, note that you will not connect with most people. I think it's a necessary life skill to be able to blend in and know how to behave in a group setting even if you don't connect with any of the people. People will expect you to be able to talk and seem comfortable in a social setting.

So... How do you get better at meeting new people and interacting with a group? Practice and analysis (looking back and thinking about what you did well, what you could have done better, etc). How do you practice? I don't know... Just try to put yourself in as many social situations as possible between now and the start of college. Also, your sister may be able to give you some advice on things you do wrong in social situations. Maybe ask her for advice?

Looking back, I had so many cringeworthy moments during college and high school because I had no idea how I was supposed to behave. I don't really know what to say - it will probably be the same for you. It takes time and lots of trial and error to figure this stuff out, I guess.

It will help a lot if you get a good roommate in college. Try to get along and be friends with your roommate, and you can take advantage of their social abilities. They'll likely be going out and making friends, and hopefully you can tag along and meet people that way. There are also all sorts of student organizations you can join, depending on what you're interested in.