Do you use "me" and "I" too much?

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I get frustrated when communicating with other people, because I use the first-person singular too much. I even try to avoid talking too much about myself in real life, but that pronoun keeps seeping out and I can't seem to help it. Most NTs have a pretty good handle on this....they speak in very short sentences and keep the conversation neutral. They are vague with very few details.

For example, I know that it is OK to use "I" in this post and in other situations, but even when I'm NOT talking about myself, I can't seem to help it when the words focus too much on myself anyway... It is hard to describe. Hopefully some of you know what I'm talking about. Is there a secret to communicating more "normally"? (hate that word but not sure what other word to use LOL)

Can any of you relate?

Yup, and in writing I try to rewrite things to remove this, but it's far more difficult to do when speaking.

I do the same, like in the sentence beginning with "I can't"..... switch it to "Can't...." or "I've had" gets switched to "Have had".

Yea, my sentences are self-centered and I'm tempted to use I a lot. As an Ayn Rand fan I see no problem with that. :D
Seriously though: to create some variation in my sentences, what I sometimes do is switch over to you or one or just "there is". It doesn't always seem correct to me, but others seem to talk in that you-form a lot too, even though they're talking about themself, or about everyone.

I wasn't even aware of that. Probably I'm guilty of that, too. When writing a formal document, I strictly eliminate the use of the first person singular, but in a more personal context, I don't even think about it.