Did doctors say that you were just "spoiled"?

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When I was young (about ages 2-8 or 9)my Mom would take me to doctors to see what was "wrong" with me. The doctors said that I was just spoiled and an attention-seeker. Did any doctors/professionals/teachers say this about you?


-SpaceCase

All the time .

I remember when I started having problems in jr. high they said it was because I was an only child and needed a more discipline.

When I was 13 I told a doctor:

TM1: I'm tired all the time.
DR: Get more sleep.
TM1: speechless

At 23 I tested positive for hypothyroidism. I had been tested at a younger age but my result was negative. A more on the ball DR and knowning my mom had hypothyroidism
would have looked into the matter more.

My doctor said there has only been a good thyroid test for a mere 3 years when I was tested in 1993 (again at age 23).

I was very depressed from 13-23 by the way Who know if early treatment could
have avoided me having so many problems today.

I was called all those things too. And I was also consistently told that there was nothing wrong with me. I just had a bad attitude and was anti-social. It never occurred to all those medical marvels that I might actually have a reason for why I was the way I was.

Talk therapy...what a nightmare! They thought wrongly that I was a NT and treated me as such. All the stuff they thought and suggested never worked. I went through 13 of them over the years. It was always the attitude angle. Well, NT advice doesn't work too well for the Aspie. Lazy, unmotivated, anti-social, bad attitude, attention seeker, aloof...no, just ignorant "professionals".

Yes.

A doctor has never told me that but my own family has, but they are all smuggly B****es and don't know anything. How is anyone with depression spoiled, and plus I got nothing. Well she can go shoot herself for all i care.

Dont know, I've been to a doctor like 10 times in my life and most of those were in the past year for nothing..

We've been blessed with amazing doctors, but we've had some questionable teachers. One told me that if I ignored my son more and taught him that the world didn't revolve around him, his "issues" would go away. He said that if you don't spoil your kids they wouldn't turn out like this. that was the last time that my son was in HIS class.

I have never heard it from a DR but my parents once said they thought my problem was because they were "to easy" on me.I thought that was amazing perspective because they were more strict then any peers parents.I was trained by my mother to do all "housework" and waite on my brothers and parents.I was only given gifts on Bday and christmas and had to buy everything else with babysitting money.They used my grandmothers inheritence to me to pay for my suicide stay in hospital at 17 and kicked me out of the house at 16 for being on the pill.(I didnt take drugs,drink,have legal or school problems and got A and B's in school).....I sure didnt "feel" spoiled" but they believe that is why I am so "selfish".

when my mom give me sh*t, I just shoot her dead

I've never been accused of that, i'm not naturally a selfish person. The doctors thought i had torettes (which I don't) because of the obsessive compulsive things I do, they thought I couldn't help it (tics) and wouldn't listen when I said "I'M MAKING MYSELF DO THEM"

Omg, yes! I remember hours of this:

shrink: How are you feeling?
me: (blank stare) I don't know.
shrink: is there anything you want to talk about?
me: I'm not sure.

It got to the point where I figured out what sorts of things I was SUPPOSED to be saying and I began to just provide those statements like a parrot. The whole experience of "therapy" was demoralizing and stigmatizing.

The doctor would tell my parents to get me into sports.

This was back in the 50's and 60's.

Nope. Everyone knew my grandmother (my legal guardian) was really strict.

Sometimes family members would say it though, in reference to my food issues. They weren't there for the days in a row that I would just go without eating because my grandmother would try the "if you're not going to eat your dinner, I'm putting it in the freezer and you get it for breakfast the next day" crap.

Seems like a common theme here is that a lot of these types seem to have a problem with accepting that there are other ways of being than there's.

It's cute that so many of them seem to think that ignoring problems will make them go away.


(How I was treated was more of a, "Oh you're really messed up, but it's okay because I'm going to change the wording around a bit so I don't have to feel guilty about saying that." type situation, but even then I was still given a fair amount of room. Though not so much encouragement.

This is probably why I'm only somewhat messed up. I swear, most of the problems resulting from Autistic conditions is people failing to acknowledge the Autistic.)