Hobbies

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I was reminded recently how I don't really have any hobbies. My two hobbies include researching/browsing the internet for things that capture my attention in that moment and I guess I'd consider my real estate obsession a bit of a hobby too. My parents constantly try to get me involved with their hobbies but they don't fascinate me whatsoever, their hobbies consist of yoga, guitar, singing, running, etc. My friends have also tried to get me into their hobbies, cycling and sewing. I'm not fascinated by any of those suggestions. Everyone thinks I'm just being a debbie downer, but that's not it. I just don't find ANYTHING interesting. I have very few interests and I've always been like that. I don't even get bored when I'm doing nothing.

How many hobbies does everyone else have? Does anyone else feel the same way I do?

Aren't you contradicting yourself here? You said you're interested in real estate.
Here's the thing: aspie interests and hobbies tend to be very individual. We won't easily share them with others. This is also the thing that makes aspie interests and hobbies so unusual: the fact that we don't easily jump on the bandwagon of popular activities that everyone else does.
NT's may not understand that trying to share their hobbies with you doesn't work, and they'll conclude that you just aren't interested in anything at all. That's not true unless you spend your spare time just sitting in the couch doing nothing.

Or activities where you improve your skill at something.

dont do things for the sake of doing them,if are perfectly fine doing nothing then dont!
everyone has their own definition of a life and no one has a right to impose their definition on someone else as it just wont fit,theres also no point in spending money on hobbies that have got no interest in doing.
the only thing is though,if are at home all day and not doing anything,it isnt very good for mental health, its good to keep active to keep mind from going into negative territory-in that situation even changing to a different room can make a difference for some people,but going outside for fresh air is good.

It is part of the Asperger Syndrome pathology that those of us with HFA have a limited, narrow range of focus and can only concentrate on specific subjects of interest to us, as individuals. Within that narrow range, however, we can easily hyper-focus, becoming enthralled for hours on end by the details of whatever subject we happen to be obsessed with.

The obsessive subject matter varies from one individual to another and while some interests may be very intense, but burn out after a period of time, others will be lifelong.

In my experience, it is not unusual to go through periods during which one feels incapable of becoming interested in or focusing even on interests one has had for years. Varying levels of anxiety or depression can contribute to states of mental lethargy, in which nothing seems terribly interesting and instead, one seeks distraction to draw focus away from negative emotional states to keep them from becoming overwhelming.

In any case, it is not possible for others to "share" their interests and hobbies with us, we're either captivated by a subject, or we couldn't care less about it, there's no in-between. And just because we're not interested in it today doesn't mean we may not compulsively learn everything there is to know about it next year, but it won't ever happen because somebody forced it on us.

I do not really have a dominant hobby, but I have recurring themes of which several are active at any give time, for instance drawing, music, cooking, watching seasons of TV-shows, gaming, reading ( includes browsing the web for cool stuff that catches my attention ), philosophy and psychology (reading but also talking about it).

Then there are preoccupations which can suddenly draw my attention, but I only use them until I feel I have learned enough and it has become uninteresting (playing keyboard, drums, jigsaw puzzles etc. etc. ), the most recent one was a MMO-RPG which sort of numbed my other interests and gave me RSI (shouldn't have tried to get so many world rankings >.< ), so I've decide to stop playing it.

Cant really say I do not have hobbies, because I have plenty of things that I like to do.

I don't think it's a bad idea to try new things. How do you know until you have a go?

I think the thing to be careful of is, if you try it and don't like it, some people may say things like "You need to stick at things." which turns it into another negative experience.