mom thinks my special interest are a phone addiction

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I have 2 special interest and love to spend time researching them on my cell phone. I could research them all day. One of my special interests is music and I also like to listen to it on my phone and observe the pitch, harmony, melody, instruments, and texture of the voices. My mom told me that I am addicted to my cell phone and I am sad now. Advice?

What's wrong with it being an addiction? Is it effecting you?


Why is "addiction" a bad thing? I say I am addicted to my computer or to my stories. I can't even tell the difference between addiction and addiction if you know what I mean.

Try putting music on when you both are together, and engage her in a conversation about it. Put on something you both can listen to. My mother and i had a bonding moment over the bassoon part in "Tears of a clown"

You may also want to ask her to go to a music shop or hit up garage sales for records, tapes, or CDs. That way she knows it is not about the phone, but instead about the music. Your other research can be done off the phone too. Hit some books about your other interests so she can see you aren't always on your cell.

Just saying "I'm not addicted to my phone" and still being on it isn't going to convince her. You'll have to change some habits too. hope this helps.

Addiction is the continued use of a psychoactive drug, or the repetition of a behavior despite adverse consequences.

What are the adverse consequences she is referring to? If there are none, addiction is not the proper word.

It's not like your addicted to crack, so why does she care.

Addiction to music can actually be a good thing. Does she think music was a "hobby" of Beethoven's? The great composers used to stay up for days, weeks and months while writing their masterpieces.

Sounds like its music you're addicted to and the phone is just a conduit for accessing that. You could be doing the same thing on a PC, like I do.

There are certainly worse things you could be doing on your cell phone than indulging in a music obsession (there is no better subject with which to be obsessed). At least you're not obsessing on porn, or wasting your day texting your BFFs about your shoes.

The internet is a wonderful source of knowledge. She should be thrilled that you like learning.

Who pays for your cell phone use, also does your special interest cost money. If you fail to pay your way in life and are getting someone else to cough up money for you to indulge your love of music via the cell phone then your mum has a perfectly reasonable point.

On the otherhand if you pay your way and you do not impose a burden on your mum then your cell phone use does not involve her. But to be paying your way you need to make sure that you are paying your fair share of the household bills if you live at some and doing your fair share of the housework.

I think it is important to understand that a special interest is not a license to do as you wish, I am sure that my wife would be quite rightly displeased if I spend all my time and all the family's money on my special interests.

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Diagnosed under the DSM5 rules with autism spectrum disorder, under DSM4 psychologist said would have been AS (299.80) but I suspect that I am somewhere between 299.80 and 299.00 (Autism) under DSM4.

Thanks for responding and being there. Also, thanks for the advice.