Did you ever believe that you grew out of Asperger's?

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Did you ever used to believe that you grew out of Asperger's and no longer had it? I thought so in high school. I believed my Asperger's had faded.

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I have a psych appointment with a PhD next week in regards to getting on Medicaid. You can bet your sweet patootie that I'm going to turn on my Asperger traits like never before. At 51, I've definitely learned to turn them down to the point where I appear normal. Within 15 minutes though you'll know something's up. With the PhD I won't have the luxury of time.

Nobody knew about Aspergers when I was growing up. But when I was in my 20's I felt I had grown out of most of the problems I had as a teenager. But now I know it was a combination of coping well and certain segments of society bieng accepting of my interests. I was always will be an Aspie.

it was known I had autistic traits way back when I was a little kid.

How do I put this?
I have the Asperger's traits,100% actually but it doesn't bother me or other people (ok...most of the time) so no diagnosis was made, just verbal confirmation of the AS but the diagnosis wasn't presented in paper form. I think that's how we do things in Taiwan.

I wish it were possible for me to grow out of autism, but I'm trying to learn to 'pass'. If anyone has any tips, please share.

When I was 14 some religious tried to pray it away. I think if I was cured of my aspiness it would be like killing me and having someone else walk around in my skin. It's an intrinsic part of who I am. However I'm not going to say that I'm better off with it. For me the negatives outweigh the positives and it hasn't made me into a genius like it does for some. Then again I've met aspies who were successful and very charismatic and been bored by aspies who's obsessions weren't my own (taste of my own medicine) so I can only conclude that there's as much separating aspies from each other as there is from NTs.

I thought as a teenager, actually between 15 and 20 maybe that it went away, but that way because my ASD got a lot better in that time, especially my social understanding. But then some years ago I had way too much stress and suffered from severe overload. But now everything is fine again and my new psychiatrist decided just to diagnose me with subclinical autism, whatever that means (I guess he means BAP), but also ADD (I didn't have that diagnosis befor).

I guess it also depents if you need a written diagnosis or not.
I also don't have a written diagnosis for my ADD, my psychiatrist just told me and I don't have a need to have a written proof, maybe someday I will, who knows!?

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I didn't even know I had it until I was almost 22.

i think over the years i've developed somewhat better ability to compensate for it, and definitely seen improvement in certain areas (such as empathy) however i am still definitely VERY aspie underneath it all. in some ways i've just kind of relaxed into it.

No, but I've outgrown the asininities of those of just don't get it. They've proven to be obstacles that waste my time. The key is that there is no 'missing piece'. And don't let them tell you so. Neuro/psych (un)professionals are just jealous. Keep calm and carry on, Aspies.

The Lab Pet is a crafty and formidable Aspie

I have a 23-year-old cousin who seemed very Aspie as a child but has somehow managed to grow out of it. His sister was a typical NT and was always OK, but his mum used to worry a lot about the son. She even got in touch with a social worker at one point, because he wasn't mixing at school and it wasn't just general shyness. He couldn't settle into secondary school, and got into panic attacks on school mornings and then when he got to able 13 he got bullied by other boys. He got on with me the most out of all the other cousins, and I got on well with him the most too. He did seem socially immature compared to his peers, and he also had obsessions with electricity. And if something happened at home what wasn't part of his routine he would just walk out of the house and go wandering for ages.

Even now his mum says she still worries about him. He hates his job even though he gets on with the people there and it's something he wants to do (building computers). He still gets anxious and has angry outbursts when something overwhelms him. His sister feels she's got to sometimes look out for him, but she is engaged to someone now and so is busy sorting out different things. But my cousin has a small group of friends that take him out clubbing at week-ends, and although he hates parties, he still seems to be able to force himself to go, where as I can't.

I have seen that people who weren't diagnosed as a child seem to get on better as adults. I was diagnosed as a child, and it might have helped me a lot as a child but now as an adult it has actually made me feel worse about myself. At least if I hadn't of known I wouldn't look upon myself as ''somebody with a label'', and would of just had to get on with it.

I didn't know I had AS until I was 41. Before that. I would blame all my social problems on the fact that I was a typical nerd/geek/genius that was obsessed with math/science and engineering. And people in that sub-culture always had social problems and weren't always into girls. At lease that's how it was taught to us back in the 80's. I was always told that someday I would just outgrow it (lost count of how many times I was told that.). Of course that never did happened. So can you grow out out of AS? Maybe. But it will never happened to me.

I didn’t know I had AS until I was diagnosed earlier this year, at age 50.

I remember having a very difficult childhood. Like many on this forum, I felt very different than other kids when growing up. I had difficulty establishing relationships with other kids (as a result, I would simply shadow my older brother). And, the teasing and bullying were difficult (when my brother was not around to protect me). I was sad and occasionally depressed. So, I found things that I enjoyed that I could do by myself. I still remember playing solitaire and backgammon in my room against myself (this was before computers ).

I remember convincing myself that the situation was a "kid thing". That once I was an adult, everything would be OK. Unfortunately, this didn’t happen as I struggled both at college (socially, not academically) and in the working world (again, socially). It was difficult to accept and left me, at times, quite depressed.

Fast forward to now, and I simply no longer care. I am who I am, and that’s not going to change.

as a child I also mistakenly thought all my addlements and limitations would sort themselves out upon reaching into adulthood, but it was not to be. took me 3 more decades of living to come partially to terms with it.