foxfield wrote:
It is most prominent for me when I am explaining to someone how to do things. I am completely unable to work out which things are obvious to the other person and which are not so I end up describing every step of the process in minute detail.
Looking back at certain times when I have done this I realize how patronizing and boring I must sound
but at the time I really can't stop myself from doing it.
yeah me too. and i'm really not trying to be grandiose or patronizing. i'm just trying to be thorough.
i never was insecure about my intelligence, so i never had problems asking questions or having things explained to me. i never felt deficient about it and all i want to do is impart to someone else the same joy i feel in learning, and i'm trying to be thorough about it. but so often it seems to come across differently, as some kind of criticism.
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