Board index › General Discussion › General Autism Discussion

Anger

Page 1 of 1 [ 12 posts ] 

Previous topic | Next topic

DeviousDani
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 30 Sep 2013
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Posts: 133

12 Oct 2013, 9:00 am

How do you cope with anger?

(I AM SO ANGRY RIGHT NOW!! !! !! !! !! !)



Sedentarian
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 28 Aug 2013
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,681
Location: Madison, WI

12 Oct 2013, 9:02 am

I blow up real bad, then feel sad for a long time, then eventually feel better in 30-60 minnutes.



silentlyvela
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

User avatar

Joined: 5 Nov 2012
Age: 36
Gender: Female
Posts: 57
Location: OR

12 Oct 2013, 9:05 am

I text my therapist, and she gives me something to research.



savvyidentity
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 15 Jul 2013
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 450

12 Oct 2013, 9:09 am

Well, don't be blowing up or going into one, else you feel bad and it hurts your self esteem. Feeling angry is normal, but blowing up at people not so much. Don't feed it, take slow and deep breaths.



ASPartOfMe
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 25 Aug 2013
Age: 67
Gender: Male
Posts: 35,910
Location: Long Island, New York

12 Oct 2013, 11:29 am

Sometimes I slam something with my hand

Too often I just hold it in.

I am yes angry that society encourages people to express most emotions but looks down on this one which is just as normal as the others.

As I get older I get angry less and less often.

I hope whatever is making you angry gets resolved


_________________
Professionally Identified and joined WP August 26, 2013
DSM 5: Autism Spectrum Disorder, DSM IV: Aspergers Moderate Severity

“My autism is not a superpower. It also isn’t some kind of god-forsaken, endless fountain of suffering inflicted on my family. It’s just part of who I am as a person”. - Sara Luterman


droppy
Velociraptor
Velociraptor

User avatar

Joined: 3 Oct 2013
Gender: Female
Posts: 477

12 Oct 2013, 12:34 pm

DeviousDani wrote:
How do you cope with anger?

Uhm, scream, swear, kick and punch stuff.
Just my typical angry reaction.
I was told that I get angry a lot and very easily. People accuse me of using an angry tone a lot while I don't realize I'm doing it.



1401b
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 May 2012
Age: 124
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,590

12 Oct 2013, 5:00 pm

I deal with it by looking it up. It's very interesting.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger
For instance...

Wikipedia wrote:
People feel angry when they sense that they or someone they care about has been offended, when they are certain about the nature and cause of the angering event, when they are certain someone else is responsible, and when they feel they can still influence the situation or cope with it.
[...]
The angry person usually finds the cause of their anger in an intentional, personal, and controllable aspect of another person's behavior. This explanation, however, is based on the intuitions of the angry person who experiences a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability as a result of their emotion. Anger can be of multicausal origin, some of which may be remote events, but people rarely find more than one cause for their anger.

(emphasis mine)


_________________
(14.01.b) cogito ergo sum confusus


leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 53
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

12 Oct 2013, 5:10 pm

my life was transformed when I discovered that it is perfectly socially acceptable to acknowledge your anger out loud as long as you don't shout or be accusatory.

Just saying out loud something like 'I am soo angry about this right now ' makes me feel better. The thing is that the emotion needs to be given a chance to work itself through your system without causing you or anyone else harm so sometimes you just have to feel it. It's not pleasant but it does pass.



yellowlab
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

User avatar

Joined: 2 Sep 2012
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 68
Location: USA

12 Oct 2013, 5:42 pm

I try to do something I enjoy or talk to someone I really like talking to.



FallingDownMan
Deinonychus
Deinonychus

User avatar

Joined: 27 May 2013
Age: 58
Gender: Male
Posts: 383

12 Oct 2013, 10:10 pm

My anger typically builds and builds until I blow. My blowups consist of pacing back and forth yelling, lasting a couple of hours up to a day or so. I can get to the point that I start hitting or breaking things. I search for ways to release the anger before I break things up, like working out hard, going for a walk/run, or a bicycle ride. I used to love the bicycle rides out into the country where there was nothing but cows and corn to hear me yell... lol.



DeviousDani
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 30 Sep 2013
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Posts: 133

12 Oct 2013, 10:17 pm

1401b wrote:
I deal with it by looking it up. It's very interesting.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger
For instance...
Wikipedia wrote:
People feel angry when they sense that they or someone they care about has been offended, when they are certain about the nature and cause of the angering event, when they are certain someone else is responsible, and when they feel they can still influence the situation or cope with it.
[...]
The angry person usually finds the cause of their anger in an intentional, personal, and controllable aspect of another person's behavior. This explanation, however, is based on the intuitions of the angry person who experiences a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability as a result of their emotion. Anger can be of multicausal origin, some of which may be remote events, but people rarely find more than one cause for their anger.

(emphasis mine)


Whenever something is bothering me I research it too :)



marshall
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 14 Apr 2007
Gender: Male
Posts: 10,752
Location: Turkey

13 Oct 2013, 12:30 pm

1401b wrote:
I deal with it by looking it up. It's very interesting.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger
For instance...
Wikipedia wrote:
People feel angry when they sense that they or someone they care about has been offended, when they are certain about the nature and cause of the angering event, when they are certain someone else is responsible, and when they feel they can still influence the situation or cope with it.
[...]
The angry person usually finds the cause of their anger in an intentional, personal, and controllable aspect of another person's behavior. This explanation, however, is based on the intuitions of the angry person who experiences a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observability as a result of their emotion. Anger can be of multicausal origin, some of which may be remote events, but people rarely find more than one cause for their anger.

(emphasis mine)


That article is BS. Anger and rage are last ditch survival mechanisms. They arise from being pushed into a situation from which there is no easy escape from emotional pain.