How to get over embarrassment? PLEASE HELP!

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I acted so stupid. So stupid, and now I'm going crazy over it. It is making me have a meltdown. I can't focus.

Alright, to summarize, I was working with a bunch of friends. I acted like a drunk giraffe just trying to fit in (I was totally sober). We were supposed to be acting for some production. But I failed. Miserably. You don't understand.... I was horrible. I threw myself around. I looked stupid. I want to cry.

I can't get over it. How do you get over it? The people that I was with must think I'm nuts now.

All my friends know I'm nuts and I wouldn't have it any other way. Not that I've gotten over being nuts, but I must say I'm pretty adept at it.

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I think one thing that makes embarrassment worse is showing that you are embarrassed. So when you see those people next time you should act normally as if it were nothing/you didn't care, if you can. I can understand how you must be feeling. I've had similar experiences. You had better not try hard to fit in in most situations. You should just not care.

I don't feel embarrassed for long. I often feel that people are too anal and far too judgmental. Their subjective value judgements of my worth in their eyes etc means nothing to me as it is not objective reality.

Don't try too hard to fit in. Sometimes trying too hard is as counter productive as not trying at all.

They might have thought you were nuts at the time, but they would have forgotten about it by now, dont take this as an insult, but whilst you or I might be thinking of this incident every second of the day, because it involves us, and the world revolves around us from our own perception, we are actually not that important to other people, they have other more interesting things to occupy their minds.

Now the most popular people are those extraverts who dont give a turd about what people think of them, they just act whatever wacky way they feel like, sometime they get it right and are funny, sometimes they get it wrong but are still admired for their audacity and courage to behave in such a way.

You sound like me, an introvert who dares to act like an extravert but reverts back to being an introvert when facing the consequences.

Sod em, they will actually respect you more if you carry on acting like you are nuts, but you just dont care!

I get those feelings all the time! i have a fobia of looking stupid, & I constantly worry that others will look at me thinking this. One way I'm learning to cope is by balancing the negative thoughts I get with equally positive thoughts. For example: when I've made a mistake, I try to think things like, "anyone could do something like that", or even, "most people probanly didn't even notice what I've done!" These balaned thoughts are helping, so I'd reccomend this!

Pretend you dreamed it;.

I concur that people in general probably already had the inkling that I was off, but I fear now I'm a little bit too "off". Also, I have a concern that people will look at me as not an eccentric genius but just general crazy.

I'm really new to the high school social scene, the first time with teenagers where I have actually no control. I've definitely come to the conclusion to not try so hard and stay more towards my logical tendencies. I will draw the line at anything that requires physical movement, since I'm honestly the most physically awkward person I know.

I can't hug people. I don't know how to playfully touch. And I definitely cannot do specific movements at specific times on the dime. My current plan is to pretend that it never happened, I thought the whole idea was ridiculous, and try to play it calmly. Then hopefully in a few months, they will forget I was ever that stupid looking. Especially with all the new badass things I'll be doing

Very early in my career in radio, I said something in an on-air break (I cannot for the life of me recall what it was) that I immediately felt stupid and embarrassed about and I was standing in the control room verbally berating myself for being such an idiot, when the station's Morning DJ, who was my mentor at the time said to me:

"In moments like this, keep in mind that every word you speak into that microphone is immediately hurtling off the edge of the Earth and into outer space at 186,000 miles per second and there is absolutely nothing you can do to get a single one of them back. Also remember that the average person's attention span is not much more than 13 seconds, so by the time the next song is over, most of them will not even remember you said it."

Which is to say, done is done and those other people are not nearly as concerned with how silly you may have looked as you are.