Why Do Mothers Like Me So Much?

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One thing I have noticed amongst myself and every male aspie I know is that we aren't popular, were downright hated in school yet from an early age mothers (other than our own of course) have taken to us almost instantly. In fact, I can say that 99% of women with children like me for some reason, some even have show concern when I'm sick and offer advice and a kind thought like they would for their own children even though I am older than them. People tell me its because I'm sweet and friendly but how can they pick up on that instantly without me even saying a word to them? I also noticed babies and toddlers flock to me and I sense this is because they have a 'sixth sense' that I am genuine. Is this something mothers have too? What really puzzles me is that women without kids (especially my own age) seem to avoid me as much as possible like I'm a serial killer and have since I was a little boy so I wonder if it isn't some subconscious maternal instinct that triggers them to like me that overrides the 'weird' vibes they get. Any WP members (particularly mothers) have any insight?

I am a mother and a grand mother. I , being hyper sensitive in my sensory issues, am also emotionally hyper-sensitive. I want to adopt EVERYBODY.When I sense anothers vulnerability I automatically feel protective and I am especially kind to them.

As far as super liking them, when a young man [or woman] is sweet, polite and kind, yes, I particularly like them. older women often find the awkwardness endearing. Many of us have adult female children who have had their hearts broken one too many times and we think "Why can't my daughter fall for someone like that"?

As you get older yourself, as long as you do not deny your uniqueness, you might find a good kind woman who has learned that being attracted to the overly confident, charismatic, shallow bad boy is not the way to anything but pain.

I am sending you a cyber-hug.

Vicky

Dont forget dogs as well even dogs that generally hate men Love me, and the owner says, "oh, she doesn't normally like men".

The other week in a queue at a petrol station, this little baby was pushing its Mothers face out of the way so it could continue staring at me.

The last girlfriend I has back in 92, her Mother couldnt for the life of her understand how I was still single for her lucky daughter to be able to go out with.
When the daughter broke off the relationship under the pressure of the church Elders, the Mother was ringing me up trying to get me to go back out with her daughter.

Maybe Mothers are free from the sexual attraction part that leads Women to be attracted to nasty selfish "alpha" males, so they see what lovely genuine and rare catches we really are?

Nambo, that is probably part of it. Just to let you know, though, most of us old ladies still have sexual attraction but it is most often to our mates.

Some people just come across as needing 'mothering' - my husband has a friend (who is older than me) and yet I have such a soft spot for him, like I just wanna take care of him (not sexually, let's get that straight). It's the nurturer in us, I guess, particularly the more seemingly vulnerable.

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I find that with myself, that 'biological units' containing a reasonably advanced 'organic computer' of different genders/species/ages/attractiveness/self-confidence/romantic status act differently to me from their counterparts of that list.
Did that make any sense at all?

Anyway often I suspect that they may be reacting to me rather than acting towards me...
For instance, I'm majickal with animals and kids (is that redundant?).
But I'm not always so majikal with attractive, available, persons of romantic interest.
Meaning that perhaps how I am presenting to them affect how they then choose to present to me.
And sometimes I may not notice (or be too distracted) that the difference is not the specific other biological unit, but rather my own behavior towards those units.

Does that make any sense at all?

and a single mother, who is observing your magicalness with her kids and animals, might realize how magical YOU are,no matter how awkward you present when dealing with just her.

I suppose that must be it but I am 6'6", 200lbs and in quite good shape right now. I suppose though that those experienced with children can see how incredibly vulnerable I really am and am as weak as a kitten at times. I also do have Dogs and Cats come up to me (even the stray cats near my apartment) and babies and toddlers seem to universally love me and always pick me out of a crowd, even ones who are crying uncontrollably will start smiling when they see me and I always joke they are thinking "on second thought, my life could be much worse" when looking at me . I'm guessing like it was stated that women with children can look behind the 'alpha' screen and see what a genuinely nice person I really am. Too bad not too my own age can: I feel like the only one in the world who is friendless, outside of the lovely WP community. I know growing up that nearly every mother wanted to trade children with my own mother, so I suppose that's a mighty compliment. I was definitely a well behaved kid even though I was incredibly naive.


Thank you. I had to admit to myself last night the only reason I am staying with my current GF is because I fear I will NEVER find anyone who will accepts me like she has (even though I know we aren't compatible) as I am the furthest thing from a "bad boy" you can imagine. I just worry it will be too late to have children but I've learned to stop worrying about the future and just enjoy the moment. It's just frustrating when all the women who are like me AND are kind, respectful, caring and naturally beautiful are all wearing rings and being extremely introverted and socially awkward makes it hard to come across as not 'trying too hard' or 'not interested'.

I've exactly the same experience. I was "BOS" (Bullied On Sight) randomly as a kid and as an adult, people hate me for no reason; but I ALWAYS attracted the "motherly" type of women as if they sensed the "hurt animal" in me.

One woman, whom I never spoke to, described me as "touching" to a friend of mine not long ago.

Aspie males are supposed to attract motherly types, and aspie females are supposed to attract geeky intellectual dudes. It's our destiny.

It's because moms are the best type of people. Yay moms everywhere!

I wanted to say yes, then realised it wasn't always the case. I guess maybe they are attracted to my inexperience of women? That I come off as shy at first. My first girlfriend told me, she couldn't believe her mum LOVED me while she hated with a passion the rest. I was the first one she was allowed to bring back home. It didn't last because of the jealousy it created between the two. I'm still baffled about that.

I am 25 yr old male, and since i was young like 13, grown woman especially like my friends moms were super drawn to me and even flirtatious.... i messed around with older woman ever since than and like i said im 25 and my wife is 33... but yeah same thing here...

Hey- my wife is 8 years older than me too. We've been married 22 years.