What have you done to raise your self confidence?

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What are you doing in order to improve your self confidence and hopefully like yourself more?

The only way to go for a person with AS is to increase his independence.

Just accept yourself, and realize that everyone feels insecure and has issues with self-confidence. Accept that you're not everyone's cup of tea. There are always going to be people who will dislike you, and not think much of you.

Being good at something is helpful. I am in therapy in an effort to have more self-confidence.

I think to myself "everyone can kiss my ass!" and it does cheer me up a bit. I'm not naturally prone to insecurity, the only reason I have it is because of the abuse from others.

Martial arts changed my life confidence wise. Im afraid of people so learning how to defend myself helped. Also really focusing on my weekly therapy and working on accepting myself.

In regards to liking myself: I don't dislike myself...I enjoy my own company a lot of the time. The only time I feel lonely is when I feel like some affection or want someone to share some good news or something beautiful with and there is no one there. Contrary to popular belief (due to todays belief systems and culture) my loneliness has nothing to do with not liking spending time with myself.

I am amused by my own sense of humour.
I am loving and forgiving towards myself
I don't judge in the same ways as society does
I don't have any interest in living up to its expectations in many ways (I am driven by passion, not power or status)
I don't believe in the concept of worthlessness
I am interested in the same things as myself so how in the hell can I find myself boring? I can't. (I never did get why I people believe this about themselves. Do they not share the same interests as themselves then? I see the "I am a boring person" thing a lot on advice for social anxiety when it mentions various beliefs and thoughts that need addressing. I don't get it...it's a weird thing to believe. I mean I can understand someone saying "The person I was talking to was not interested in the same subjects as me and found them boring", that makes a lot more sense but "I am a boring person" huh? Someone explain how this can happen please?)
I think society is overly judgmental and controlling and that is has no right to dictate what another human being should be, however I do think it is wise to try to control or minimise behaviour that can cause harm to others (ie criminal behaviours). As long as it harms no one, people should be free to live as they wish without ridicule from others.

And so on...

As for self confidence, could you clarify further please. Do you mean just confidence in yourself as an individual living personality that is free to be whatever you wish? Or do you mean confidence in your abilities? If the latter in which ways?

Ie I am learning to play piano. As a beginner I am by no means a confident player but I am confident that, over a period of time, with study, perseverance and practice, that I can become a better piano player than I already am (that I will improve).

Also why do you need to dislike yourself because you are not confident? What is wrong with not always being confident? I think it is natural to doubt oneself or ones ability at times and there is nothing wrong with that. Is it because society likes more confident people and you feel you have to live up to what society thinks you should be?

What makes you think society is so right? Society used to persecute old ladies and hang innocent women and men for witchcraft. They also used to burn people at the stake. Other societies committed similar atrocities (Hitler, Nazis and eugenics being one of them). Society is more about power and control in some ways and is not always right.

Lack of confidence itself is not so much a problem as your reaction to it. If you shut down shop and refuse to act this can sometimes be problematic (not always...there are exceptions where giving up is actually more beneficial...but it depends on what, why and in what way) but if you carry on and give things a go and keep trying anyway...

If you want to like yourself more, listen less to society, it tends to talk through its arse, even more than I do

Never had a lack of self-confidence.

I'm very aware of my strengths and weaknesses and what I can and can't do.

Mainstreaming into the public school system was a pretty big step and it has worked out okay so far.
Also interacting with other teens on the internet and that working out really well.
Doing more things by myself going from level 2 to level 1.

im going to go with hard work, and persistence in time.

Atm, teaching myself furniture making and martial arts (Mizongyi and wing chun).

I meant self confidence in your abilities, as well as the confidence you show while talking to (NT) other people.

Well, I skateboarded for 17 years, and I've always been competitive and motivated. I have confidence, I just don't talk much; furthermore Im always questioning others behavior (being skeptical in nature), in other words I almost never entirely believe anyone. So I guess I have confidence in what I do and say, just not so much in what other people will understand or accept, and I accept that. Also, developing and expertise in any area, I believe will boost confidence. For me, expertise is modular, which is why I,m constantly teaching myself. Be passionately curious, don't let what others think effect your interests. Here's a motivational pic I like, it has a nice poignant message-