Would this be inappropriate to ask?

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I'm joining a therapy group for people on the spectrum. My one concern is that an acquaintance I have, also on the spectrum, may be there. I don't want to get into details, but it would just be uncomfortable if he was in the same therapy group because of the way that he has touched me. Would it be inappropriate for me to ask the facilitator if he will be there? I know due to confidentiality laws the facilitator may not be able to disclose his membership (until of course the first meeting, when I would find out if he's coming), but I want to prevent any potential awkwardness in advance. I know I wouldn't be able to continue with the group if he is there.

If you want more information on the group, I posted previously http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt244604.html

I think you should raise this with the facilitator. You shouldn't have to give details. You have a valid concern, and he or she will be able to decide what level of disclosure is appropriate according to their own confidentiality code.

If this man does attend the group, are there other meetings which you would be able to attend?

I would ask.
This is a valid reason for asking and you WOULD know at the first meeting so it is NOT a confidentiality issue.
It IS a conflict of interest issue and a safety/comfort issue so it is perfectly valid to know in advance.
In fact pre-resolving these issues is probably EXPECTED.

Or else "miss" the first meeting and hangout in the parking lot like a stalker to see if your "friend" does go in.