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07 Dec 2013, 1:50 pm

I just had a stupid needless conflict with a co-worker and now I'm exhausted. The optimism I've had has now melted away. Things are going to get worse from here on out, I can tell.

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07 Dec 2013, 3:00 pm

bringing food to work for my coworkers to eat helped with that for me.

Deserts, homemade popcorn, picked up breakfast burritos or doughnuts.

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07 Dec 2013, 3:09 pm

nebrets wrote:

bringing food to work for my coworkers to eat helped with that for me.

Deserts, homemade popcorn, picked up breakfast burritos or doughnuts.

That might work.

But it is an act of submission in the eyes of many NTs, making you look as being lower in the social hierarchy than them (and hence less important than them!). Unfortunately.

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07 Dec 2013, 3:10 pm

nebrets wrote:

bringing food to work for my coworkers to eat helped with that for me.

Deserts, homemade popcorn, picked up breakfast burritos or doughnuts.

No one eats the things I bring, so I've stopped bringing them.

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07 Dec 2013, 3:16 pm

qawer wrote:

nebrets wrote:

bringing food to work for my coworkers to eat helped with that for me.

Deserts, homemade popcorn, picked up breakfast burritos or doughnuts.

That might work.

But it is an act of submission in the eyes of many NTs, making you look as being lower in the social hierarchy than them (and hence less important than them!). Unfortunately.

Why is it an act of submission? Why does it make someone a lesser being because they are nice and bring people food?

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07 Dec 2013, 3:16 pm

qawer wrote:

nebrets wrote:

bringing food to work for my coworkers to eat helped with that for me.

Deserts, homemade popcorn, picked up breakfast burritos or doughnuts.

That might work.

But it is an act of submission in the eyes of many NTs, making you look as being lower in the social hierarchy than them (and hence less important than them!). Unfortunately.

You do not say you are bringing it because of conflict. I have found they feel somewhat indebted and have a general happy feeling to those who bring things they like to them randomly as gifts.

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No one eats the things I bring, so I've stopped bringing them.

Have you noticed if they tend to eat comfort food, unhealthy food, or super healthy food? Bring what they like to eat.

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07 Dec 2013, 3:19 pm

nebrets wrote:

qawer wrote:

nebrets wrote:

bringing food to work for my coworkers to eat helped with that for me.

Deserts, homemade popcorn, picked up breakfast burritos or doughnuts.

That might work.

But it is an act of submission in the eyes of many NTs, making you look as being lower in the social hierarchy than them (and hence less important than them!). Unfortunately.

You do not say you are bringing it because of conflict. I have found they feel somewhat indebted and have a general happy feeling to those who bring things they like to them randomly as gifts.

I think people find me to be disgusting. Whenever I bring them food, I can see the look of disgust on their faces, as if thinking, "I'm actually expected to eat this nasty s**t!"

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07 Dec 2013, 5:08 pm

Watch the movie Office Space.

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07 Dec 2013, 5:14 pm

starkid wrote:

Watch the movie Office Space.

Already saw it. Which part are you referencing?

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07 Dec 2013, 5:24 pm

beneficii wrote:

starkid wrote:

Watch the movie Office Space.

Already saw it. Which part are you referencing?

Go crazy and burn it down.

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07 Dec 2013, 5:49 pm

starkid wrote:

beneficii wrote:

starkid wrote:

Watch the movie Office Space.

Already saw it. Which part are you referencing?

Go crazy and burn it down.

Ha ha ha! I know, right? :lol:

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