Do you find NT men or women to seek eye contact more

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For me growing up the majority of men I came into contact with never asked me to look them in the eye, But when in the company of female teachers, doctors or female relatives they always sought eye contact and sometimes would start leaning their heads onto my open gaze to try and get me to look directly at them or just yell at me to look at them but I would be reluctant to.

thanks for the responses guys but I was kinda hoping for a higher emphasis on your experience with NTs and which sex has demanded eye contact more.

I find I tend to look at people's mouths when they are talking instead of their eyes - not sure why I do this, reading lips? I don't know.

What I do know is that when talking to females I should not look down as it can be misconstrued that I'm looking at something else - I've been asked in the past "are you looking at my ....."

Usually women, and I'm a woman. I think it's a "woman" thing that I wasn't told about because I was supposed to do it "naturally". Some women have decided I'm an unfriendly witch-with-a-B because I wouldn't look at them while they talked to me.

Among NTs, eye contact is considered a measure of honesty and sincerity. Men are more likely to have disclosure issues - meaning they aren't as willing to reveal everything they're thinking or feeling, so they aren't as demanding about eye contact (although they do still consider it a nonverbal indicator of how truthful you are) and you can get away with faking it more easily than with NT females, who are much more about expressing feelings and saying what's on their minds.

In either case, they tend to jump to the conclusion that if your eye contact is deficient, it means you're trying to hide something or that you're feeling guilty, because that's what THEY do when they're being deceptive.