invisible disability and the impressions you give off

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I manage to give off very different impressions, especially racially/ethnically (It really reminds me that people are still close minded about race/ethnicity), since I'm a African American adolescent in NYC and I use to get the Oreo/Urkel insults.

I seem to be auspicious with adults since my behavior is considered very idealistic for a student or adolescent. However people my own age group can't seem to get along with me since they seem to be so toxic and self destructive.

One summer job I had people actually thought I was being rude by being by myself and not talking most of the time. They actually thought I considered them inferior just cause I didn't interact as much. The other kids in the mental hospital I was in thought I was inside for attempted murder or something since I was very anti social and never brought attention to myself.

I never once used my Asperger's as an excuse especially since I didn't know what it was, but most people that knew I had automatically assumed I thought I could escape any culpability. Of course there is the ignorance of people without any mental disorders assuming people with them can just stop having them, My saying to them is "Than there is no such thing as getting drunk or high, people just making themselves act that way"

My "weirdness" and failure to pick up or handle someone bullying me makes me an easy target, At times people have said/done things to me that have had bystanders ask me why I didn't punch their lights out, I would be confused about what they're talking about. People generally get mad at me for not conforming or following their social hierarchy.

People really love to judge others based on the surface and not actually bother digging into their story. For example I was helping my mom at the laundry mat, after carrying laundry bags bigger than myself at age 10 and walking over 10 blocks plus stairs and hills in my area and doing these trips 4-5 times, when it was my sisters' turn to carry the laundry bags to and from the laundry mat I had to show them the way and my body was exhausted so I didn't carry anymore bags however a bunch of ladies noticed my sisters carrying bags and I had none, they started saying that I was lazy and had no respect for females. I could of corrected them but I didn't have the energy to handle their bellicose behavior.

My parents also tell me that I may do things that are rude like apparently I made a little kid cry because I immediately ended the conversation soon as she stopped talking and I closed the door to get my sister. Another time I made a kid cry was I was informing her on things about sea animals, apparently she didn't like my realistic views and I couldn't tell I was upsetting her so I ended up making her cry, I felt really bad to point I wanted to cry but I held it in, some 19 year old who had no actual depth on what was going on just assumed I was groaning her, that idiotic neanderthal held it against even after what I explained plus the kid did some things to me like hit me in the crotch before this even happened, I even tried to be the bigger man by apologizing, giving her some gummy sharks and showing her some interactive dolphin app on my computer.

Fortunately for me these days being able to buy people's respect with my special interest in baking and knowing I have Asperger's, if anyone tries to mess with me these days I can easily unleash a angry mob on said person.

How about you?

How about us WHAT?

whoa theres no need to be so ornery - I imagine he's just asking us whether we have any similar experiences... I do the same too. Note to op though try to be more specific. Your post is incredibly long and its difficult to know what you want us to identify with

You have an advantage of knowing you're on the spectrum at an early age. Older folks like me didn't. In retrospect, we can see where our quirky behaviours came from. It explains it better than saying we're plain old as*holes.

You also have the advantage of knowing that if you can't make and keep friends, there's a reason for that.

you're also in a better position than I and many many people here have ever been in. You have people around you willing to defend you and advocate for you. I cant advocate for myself effetively and unfortunately there isnt anyone willling to really put their neck on the line.

I haven't been. I don't understand what he's looking for. So much information, then suddenly "What about you?"

What about us WHAT?



Tooo much to keep track of. I can't believe I'm the only one who was left saying "Huh?"

As an undiagnosed female going through school, apparently I was thought of as a snob as I didn't talk to anyone and didn't socialise with them.

As a diagnosed adult, with a heap of fakery, I think I come across as just a bit weird, and not overly social.

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