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Is like trudging through mud with intermittent patches of quick sand.

What would you liken it to?

Being put on a stage.

exactly as you say ! !

often in the UK when younger i used to think there was a 'class' thing too .... my mind as now very alive and exploring, many seemed brain dead. Very seldom found any connection.

God help the young aspi .... thats why i've never had children, intentionally.

In the dark struggling to find a light switch and stubbing my toe many times along the way.

Trying to find my way out of a burning house.

Trying to juggle a dozen very sharp knives.

It is like trying to dodge bullets (questions) and saying silent prayers to not die in the process.

Conversation is a bit like taking a psychedelic drug. You do your best to have a good experience and learn from it, but everything is ultimately unstable and unreliable and you can be thrown in a bad trip at any moment for no understandable reason.

Depends on the conversation and who I'm having it with.

Sometimes it's like a carnival ride mixed with a funhouse.

Sometimes it's like exploring new/unknown places (on foot).

Sometimes it's like listening to music. (Music I may or may not like or want to listen to.)

Sometimes it's like being lost in a thick fog.

Most conversations feel like a job interview. I have to try hard to say the right thing and I feel very tense and anxious.

reading a script i wrote years ago,
nerve wrecking
awkward
confusing
'trudging through mud" is a good description

last but not least BORRING!! !

pretending to be interested in what other people are talking about is really really hard! and talking about not sonic sucks

Almost every post here has touched on something that I don't fully understand. If you're not interested in something, and 'going with the flow' is really f*****g hard, why do you still try to 'act properly'?
I know, I know, there are some situations where you have to act normally, have to say and do the right things, but those have limits, right? What happens to you when you say 'f**k it' to the social rules you know you're supposed to apply and instead speak your mind?

Surely conversation with loved ones isn't as stressful as conversations with the general public??

It's like a video game with different sections, some of which I'm quite good at, some of which can be fun, and many of which I suck at quite dramatically.

Having an interesting conversation with the right person about something of actual interest can be immensely enjoyable and satisfying, whereas the sort of little chats that acquaintances will launch into because they're being friendly are quite excruciating, stressful, and I often come away feeling I've failed - but with a sense that there is a right way to do it, which I just haven't figured out yet.

I've been thinking about this for some time. It's like writing a collaborative essay. You're supposed to start with an introduction like "Hi, how are you?" ,lead up to your main points instead of stating them abruptly, have transition sentences to go smoothly from topic to topic (paragraph to paragraph) and then smoothly lead up to a conclusion finishing off the conversation and then stating something like "It was nice seeing you. Goodbye." The hardest part is putting your ideas together with someone else's so that what you're saying in one part of the conversation is relevant , appropriate and flows well with the next part or paragraph contributed by the other person. Of course, conversation is even harder bcs you have to do it on the spot in real time and there's no chance to revise.

If you f**k up the introduction to the essay or conversation you will sound abrupt and awkward. If you go on a tangent about one topic (go into too much detail about it and veer from the main point of the conversation or essay) then you'll sound long-winded and the writing will be too convoluted. If you don't have good transitions you'll sound (or your writing'll sound) stilted. If you don't conclude properly you'll sound abrupt and awkward once again. Finally, if your contributions don't mesh with the collaborators or if what you say doesn't mesh with what your conversational partner says then the rhythm of the conversation or the way the paper reads will be disturbed.