Reasons for stimming?

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So, years ago I started reading about Asperger's by chance and noticed some strange similarities. I've never known whether to truly consider it as a possibility in myself-- it's true that I've never held anything but brief friendships and have always just sort of been a loner, but i'm not sure if it's because i don't understand others or because I'm an a**hole. it's true that i don't sympathize with or understand my peers, and when i do have a friend, it usually ends because they do something that i can't grasp the reasoning behind and/or it violates my personal boundaries of what i consider "right" or just. I don't sympathize well, but i've always thought i was okay with social cues. granted, i don't have much experience in social situations, i really didn't get out (or even want to) in high school.

So, usually i would have just dismissed the idea, but the one thing is, i DEFINITELY stim. when i was little, my sister used to give me so much crap for repeating everything i said in a whisper. it is just so relaxing. it got to be really embarrassing to get called out on, so i tried to make an effort to stop, and by the time i was 13 or so i had almost stopped entirely. now i only find myself whisper repeating when i'm alone, or occasionally indulging in a repeated "g" sound before bed. i also used to suck on my hair but i don't know if that was anything.

also, i've never realized that it's not so normal (in fact it's sort of disgusting) but i pick my scalp, and have since at least early high school. i do it when i'm stressed or focused or just bored. i think if i shaved my head you would see all these little scars.

it never dawned on me that that scalp scab picking might be a stim, but i noticed I've been doing it a lot recently, and it happens to be coinciding with the collapse of yet another series of short-lived relationships, which makes me wonder about this again. my father has also once mentioned that he thought he might have asperger's (he doesn't know that i've looked into it), but I'm not sure how much he knows about it, and he might just be a giant jerk honestly. he doesn't have friends and hates essentially everyone.

i don't like physical contact either, especially intimate contact (but i don't think i'm asexual? also very confusing. but i am hetero), and i have very sensitive hearing (especially after i've just woken up, oof). i don't know, is it an actual possibility? or is there some other reason i don't know about?

I do the scalp picking thing as well, I try not to as it kind of makes your head sore, I also run my hands through my hair repeatedly which makes my hair look awful, which I also try not to do.

things like that can be down to anxiety and also I think ocd, I believe there is also a particular problem related to picking at skin

Did you ever stim by flapping your hands? Things I've heard and seen, it may be one of the most common. (Others may correct me on that.)

i've never been one to flap my hands. though i tend to wring them or scratch my arms under stress. but that's not a mindlessly regular enough thing for me to consider a stim.

i run my hands through my hair too! again, i notice it more the more i do it and when i am picking my scalp. makes my hair all greasy, ugh.

It's enthralling!

I've also been know at least for a few members of my family, usually my mother (of course) to stim, which was prevalent when I was young. My stimming behavior consisted of striking rapidly the edge of my wrists or rather the tips of my fingers, usually when I'm excited or for that just plain happy but it can be a great release of pent up energy.

I was told the reason for the whole self stimulation thing was to help myself feel grounded.
That it is a coping mechanism for feeling displaced and disconnected from the world around me.