question for non-verbal people

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This may not be the right place to ask this. I am taking linguistics and while learning about the biology associated with speech, I got curious, so I am asking.
For those who are entirely, or partially non-verbal, what is it about speech that is so difficult? Is it moving your articulators (tongue, jaw, etc)? Or is it connecting the sounds to form words, or is it something else entirely?
If this is a rude question I apologize, I am just curious.

I am not one that can speak for the non verbal person. But to me it would be the extreme overwhelming stimulus of the mind and enviroment

I've always had trouble translating my thoughts into words. It has gotten worse as I have gotten older. I try to speak as rarely as possible.

For me it's more mental than physical. My mind can't find the right words or put them in the right order.

I can't speak for what it is like for nonverbal people, but the effort includes working to think about communicating, reaching across to another, different mind. It feels like less work to communicate to someone with ASD in some ways, too. And it's just work to organize thoughts into words and then try to reach across and be understandable to another person.

Making the physical movements isn't really an issue. Getting them in a wrong order is stressful, in terms of it interferes a lot with communicating, and with being taken seriously. And getting upset about ones ability to communicate is discouraging, makes it harder.

I'd imagine it'll be hard to get really non-verbal people to respond, but this is a really interesting thread!

For me it is aparxia or dysparxia of speech which you can read about here
Basically its a coordination problem between lips, tongue and jaw movements that gives me what I call "mushmouth" and my cousin calls me "mister mumbles" (affectionately).
And also a problem translating thought into verbal speech. This crosses over into any kind of back and
forth corresponding in PM for instance and in texting. I am unable to talk in internet chat rooms.
There is also selective mutism where there is just a psychological block that keeps me from even trying to talk.
And even though i sound articulate in writing stuff like this, I have to make many corrections in grammar and spelling (due to dyslexic blunders) before pressing the submit button.

It seems like I didn't understand how people are using the term nonverbal.

To me nonverbal means nonverbal.

If it takes a long time to talk, or it's too hard to do except in certain circumstances, or most people would not have the patience to listen to a person, I did not have any idea anyone would call that nonverbal. And I have trouble understanding why and how that is thought of as nonverbal, which to me means no meaningful verbalizations of language, ever.

And Ezra, thank you, again. You often seem to take a concept that people are discussing that I am lost and becoming increasingly upset about and pull out the meaning and express it in a concrete and understandable manner. It really helped me get it that you threw in how the apraxia and trouble translating thoughts and anxiety over speaking are specific factors making it difficult, maybe impossible though I get the impression you are verbal as I understand the word, but not from the perspectives of those who expect the same smoothness with oral communication as with written. I'm curious which, but it doesn't matter because you seem like a very special and unique person, as each one of us is, and you help me understand the world as others see it--I'm very grateful, few are able to do that for me. Thank you. Thank you.

Ok, this is starting to make more sense now, it is still very upsetting to me how differently we all use language, even when I think I understand, sometimes I do not; but I am trying to understand the gradations in meaning of the term nonverbal, thank you Kingdom of Rats.

I'm not non-verbal, but I struggle with verbal language nevertheless. I can write well (I know there are a couple of typographical errors here and there in my posts, but English is not my mother tongue), but writing uses a different part of the brain than speaking does. Regarding verbal skills, I have a limited vocabulary when it comes to everyday, casual words—but I'm quite well adept at technical words concerning my special interests. I also have problems forming long sentences when talking to other people.

The discrepancies between my overall intelligence and my verbal skills, were one of the key factors that led to the diagnosis. Problems with language are probably the norm and not the exception for those with Asperger's who do not meet the criteria (about 20% do not) for NLD as a secondary diagnosis.

I'm partially non-verbal, I can speak fine, I just have extreme difficulty with conversations, reciprocation is the most difficult aspect for me, and the reason I don't speak much.

I'm verbal but I lose speech for hours at a time (not selective mutism); I refer to this as "going nonverbal", because when I'm in this state I cannot speak, can usually make very limited sounds, and can write.

In that state, its like when I try to convert thoughts to speech, they get jumbled and lost. They're gone. I get confused. Or, I can try and try to speak, and nothing comes out. It feels like it gets stuck, mentally, before speech. So I think "I want to get this idea across" or something, and convert the thoughts to words and then go to speak, and it gets stuck like that. It feels like I'm constantly aware of how many steps there are to speaking, and how much effort it takes, and when it goes to this, then I can't get them through all those steps, its too hard to.

Typing, that's so much easier. It bypasses all these steps. It is a level where I can just type out exactly what I'm thinking without going through translation steps into these "spoken word" things. No matter how verbal I am at the moment, typing is easier, especially when I want to write out things about how I am. I can just type and have things flow. I can't do that in speech. Speech requires thought, concentration, figuring out what its like, and what to say.

When I just can't get the proper sounds out is also a pain too, but that's not related to not being able to speak to me I don't think.

Also, I agree that KingdomofRats makes awesome posts.