The Aspergers Box

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Ever felt that when people know that you have Aspergers they treat you like you're stupid or robotic in thought process? That you are put into a metaphorical box and that you are incapable of deviating from the set of behaviours and attitudes affiliated with Aspergers - thus something to be endured and ignored.
Ever since I was diagnosed I had been repeatedly told that 'because of [my] aspergers' I 'don't think like other people' and that every time I got angry or upset, it was just blown off as 'part of my aspergers' and that it would be expected that I would simply 'get over' whatever it was I was upset about or interested in. As if I did not have any true feelings at all. I have an obsessive nature, I am a stickler for details, I speak in rushed riddles sometimes, I am stubborn, not exactly a people person (except with close friends), I can't stand when others don't use their brain or lack compassion and am very rigid in my sense of honour and justice. All of these traits are typical Aspergers traits, but they aren't simply 'symptoms' of a condition they are what makes me me. I am me, not 'that guy with Aspergers' and as I am sure others on this forum will agree we are all different. Aspergers does not mean stupid or narrow any more than it means you are hyper intelligent and obsessive, it doesn't mean you are incapable of being a loving and kind human being as likewise you can have Aspergers and still be a horrible person. We are people, not a condition.

No, but I can look aloof or be aloof.

yes they do you get looked down upon and seen as abnormal by many and as such beneath them in their eyes and i hate it

This is why I don't tell people about my diagnosis.

For years, I used to deny my diagnosis because I didn't want to be lumped in with "stereotypical" aspies, but once I realized the full extent of my differences when I was about 16-17 years old, that's when I finally started opening up about it, and it felt good because in a way, having a "label" makes it easier for people to understand me.

yes i agree but the problem is most don't want to understand us they they just want us to "act normal"

I wouldn't use the words stupid or robotic, but otherwise yes. I'd say everyone I've ever known throughout my life treated me like I was different, and they always accomadated their actions to "support my disability." Or if I did something unfavorable, it was "oh, he's autistic, that's why" and I feel like those people felt they need to treat me like I'm special. It's really annoying. The only thing I feel I need understanding with in life is anxiety attacks, short of that, if people are treating me like I need special treatment or help they generally piss me off.

In my case, most people don't know what it is, aren't willing to do the research, expect me to act normal, and if I don't act normal, they get mad. I don't get put in the AS box. Telling people of my diagnosis has no impact. I imagine people think I am using my diagnosis as an excuse for being rude when I do bring it up.

This is why I stay closeted, except with close friends. Most people are too stupid to actually get to know you and figure out what Asperger's means that way, and will only project whatever stereotype they've picked up.