Does anyone else hate speaking?

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I strongly dislike conversations. When people try to converse with me, it hurts. Sometimes I talk to be polite but I would prefer if people just didn't expect me to say anything.

Texting and forums are ok I guess, but I don't like long emails / PMs.

Is anyone else like this?

Fundamentally, why am I like this?

im like this too, getting words out takes a lot of energy, i tend to repeat myself, speak loudly, too slow, mis-pronunciate, and stammer sometimes, this is because i have a very low verbal I.Q, also, some people cant talk well under anxiety so for me, its a little bit from Column A and a little bit from Column B

I feel I can't keep up. It is a failure experience. Like ZombieBrideXD said, it takes a lot of energy.

I was trying to make conversation with the hairdresser today (got new hair, although on saying that the colour looks the same to me although I asked for something different):





as well as a taxi driver prior to that, and a lady at the bus stop before that (who was kind enough to let me use her phone as the bus did not turn up when it was supposed to)...

It literally felt like trudging through mud...

It actually hurts my head to think of things to say to people.

The hairdresser was asking about big brother. I don't watch such things.

I'm the same way. I'm ok with talking to people about stuff that I know about or if I just need to talk to that person because I'm asking for help or something. But otherwise, I find it overwhelming to try to think of a response or give the appropriate reaction to things that I could care less about but I don't want to come off rude. Like the person above me mentioned, going to the hairdresser is sooooo exhausting, they always want to chit chat but id prefer that they concentrate on my hair.

easier for me to do, say, public speaking, like delivering a paper in front of an audience, than to carry on a conversation. i quit playing MMORPGs because so many have switched from "chatroom" style (texting) conversation to actual audio. yes, i hate talking to people. i feel awkward, anxious, and get sick of being told to 'speak up.' and it's so tiring. i get so sick of trying to figure out what to say and how to say it and what other people mean, even though i'm usually fairly good at it (not always, i miss some really obvious stuff, obvious to NTs anyway), it is VERY taxing.

oh and using the telephone - forget it.

all part of our communication issues and possibly sensory as well.

Most of the girls that are my age think they can swoo you and will pester you frequently. This is "uninformative" conversation. I tell them I would prefer them to be more professional when relating to me, but they wouldn't listen = disrespect.

I dodge "uninformative" conversation.

I don't feel any hurt or sense of pain that a few of you guys are talking about. But I do feel this enormous weight of pressure to speak to break the tension of silence that I know most people hate but I don't really worry about. Every second ticks by playing on my mind just because I know the other person or people are probably uncomfortable with silence. Even with people like relatives, friends or long term partners who I'm comfortable speaking around I just get this kind of fatigue sometimes. It's like I just couldn't be arsed to say a word. It really does feel like a tiredness of speaking. Maybe I feel this where you guys feel a type of pain. I feel like I'd have more energy to do a half hour run in silence than try to utter one fully formed sentence. In the last 5 years or so I've noticed that I've stuttered or mumbled a bit which I never used to do or not as much at least.

for me normally its like I have to push each word up a steep incline to the top before it gets out , normaly I have trouble with finding words (vocabulary) but I have sleeping, huge sleeping problems and and when Iv been awake for too long I get a silver tounge

I wouldn't say it's painful for me, but it is unpleasant and uncomfortable, like standing waiting for a bus in the cold and rain is unpleasant and uncomfortable, it feels like a similar level of discomfort.

I hate telephone conversations. I hate small talk. I don't mind talking to people who are interesting and whom I know well. But getting to know new people is just awful.

I don't mind public speaking because I have scripted the text already and I've had time to think about how to logically construct the theme, the words and so on. People say I'm a good public speaker and think that means I'm good at conversation. I'm not. I'm good at teaching/training clients, but then again, I print out instructions and take them through what to do and I am in control, there is no superflous nonsense, so it is easy for me. If they ask a question it is related to what we are doing and therefore easy to respond to.

I hate meeting clients for the first time and working out what they want me to do for them. I have no control over this conversation and it stresses me out.

I hate talking to hairdressers. I don't like to distract them in case they lose concentration and mess my hair up.

Depends on who I'm conversing with but if there's a pause for more than 5 seconds, then it tends to get awkward and I need to find something else to talk about.

i dont like long conversation and hate the phone, and hate chatting. only emails and forums. talking is painful, exhausting, and makes me anxious.